From the video Goddess Party
"Isn't it kind of wierd for us men to want to submit to Women?"
Supreme Goddess Lorena's Advice: "Some people might feel that you are not submissive if you question why you would want to submit to a Woman. Yet in actuality, it is quite normal for you to feel this way if you are new to it and if you have been so used to the way society in general views Women having power over men. But at the same time it is also just as normal to want to submit to Women because submitting to a Woman is really just wanting to please and serve Her because you care for Her. All men are born with the desire to want to please Women. men do things for a Woman that they feel She might like in the hopes that She will be happy and pleased by it, will thank or praise him for it, and he will then have a feeling of success, contentment, and satisfaction. So if you feel uncomfortable thinking of yourself as a slave who's submitting then know that there is no need for you to be one in order to serve and please a Woman. Any man who cares for a Woman wants to see Her happy.
Many men, both slaves and non-slaves, have said that no feeling compares to the one they feel when their Mistress/Goddess/Owner/Wife/Girlfriend is pleased. he will feel deliriously happy, joyous, escstatic, gratified, elated, and grateful. he may want to bow down and kiss Her feet one hundred times or he may feel like leaping up and jumping for joy around the room. These feelings show that men feel happy when they have succeeded at pleasing a Woman. Why do men feel this way about it? Because it is not easy for a man to please a Woman. Most do not even know where to begin.
It is a great conquest to please a Woman, not to mention a demanding Goddess. Even a seriel killer who kills Women is doing it only out of resentment for feeling rejected by Women when he felt he could no longer succeed at pleasing one (his Female victim represents all Women in general and each new victim gives him the opportunity to experience and re-live his temporary and substitute feeling of success and power over and over again. For instance, ted bundy psychologically killed both his Mother and his ex-Girlfriend, who was a model, over and over again without actually killing them but by killing other Women who looked like them). This example may be quite depressing to think about but My point remains the same. he is yet another man giving up when he feels inadequate because he could not please a Woman.
When a man makes a Woman cry (by accident or otherwise) he feels he has failed Her. he may have a hard time at showing Her that he is sorry for hurting Her because he then foolishly attempts to defend himself and may even get angry at Her because he feels frustrated and does not know what else to do in this situation. But he truly does care for Her and did not INTEND to hurt Her (Which is understandable because men generally do not plan that far ahead and instead think for the moment. Whereas a Woman plans on how many kids She will have with a man who She has only gone on one date with and She will even try his last name on for size to hear how it sounds with Hers).
The problem is that many men do not understand Women and know how to please them. Women do not come with user's manuals. They are not like a machine that is repairable and fixable. Women are much more complex. What they want one minute differs from the next. Their moods change dramatically and quickly. To many men, it appears that a Woman can cry at the drop of a hat and that She is never satisfied. he feels this way because men are alot more simple than Women. men can live off of the basics (ie: food, sex, and sleep) whereas Women require much more. Women will want such things as to go out more often, to shop for yet another black dress, to try a new restaurant, to have something different for dinner ever night, to drink a cocktail that involves more than one type of liquor, to have a particular number of children, to call Her girlfriend not once but 5 times a day, etc.
Many men may find it easier to give up and leave a Woman than to stick around and try to figure Her out. Some also do not want to have to change themselves in order to please Her. They will fix machines but they do not feel that they themselves need fixing. So rather than to change himself, and since he cannot fix Her, he may prefer to give up trying. "Take me as I am" is a popular saying for men. (Another fitting saying is: a man marries a Woman, hoping She will never change; a Woman marries a man, hoping he will change.)
Being a slave does not necessarily take care of these problems. Some slaves pretend to submit only in the hopes of getting his fetish catered to (A common complaint among FemDoms). Some other slaves submit in the hopes of being looked after but FemDoms complain about those kind of slaves too, saying that those slaves just want a babysitter. Women want to be looked after. They do not want to look after a slave in any other way but the norm that is required when keeping slaves (ie: making sure he is fed, watered, gets lots of sleep, feels loved and cared for, given time off, given rewards for good behaviour, given punishment for bad behaviour, etc).
To help you further, I have written a list of some of the things that most Women in general like and want.
What Women really want:
1. Financial security (to be looked after)
2. Shopping for clothes (and taking someone along who they can
share the experience with and who can give them their opinion
on what She is trying on).
3. To feel comforted and reassured when She is feeling low and
being given a shoulder to cry on.
4. To vent when She feels upset by having someone She can share
it with or bounce it off of without feeling criticized for what
She is feeling
5. Chocolates, sweet drinks, desserts.
6. Puppies, kittens, babies, teddy bears (anything cute, fuzzy,
soft, and innocent that needs to be nurtured and cared for. Besides
you, that is.)
7. Feeling young and beautiful ALWAYS.
8. Having Her man keep his eyes on Her even when a crowd of sexy
young cheerleaders walk by.
9. To have a man go down on Her until She cums and not act like
he is disgusted by it, in a race, or that She owes him and has
to return the favour/gesture.
10. To not be made to feel like a blow up doll during sex, a babysitter
for your offspring, your cook/housekeeper/maid, a baby-machine
to give you offspring, or that She is your Mother to look after
you and pick up your clothes from off of the floor.
11. To have just one man who can give Her all that She wants/needs.
12. For you to be able to ride the emotional unpredictable waves
and go with the flow when She is having Her mentral cycle.
13. To have a man who is faithful to Her.
14. To not be lied to (Lying to Her insults Her intelligence and
She also needs to feel that She can trust you.)
15. To have Her man stand by Her, be on Her side, and protect
Her when someone insults Her, offends Her, hurts Her, etc.
16. For you to rather spend your evenings and weekends with Her
than with your male buddies or instead of you watching the TV
alone while She fetches you snacks and beer.
17. For you to take Her out for a night out on the town when She
has been indoors for too long.
18. To dress up formal so She can feel like a moviestar.
19. For you to demand that the waiter/waitress treat Her to good
service rather than to treat you like a king and treat Her like
She is invisible (all because they assume that you will been the
one who will be doing the tipping).
20. For you to ask to stay and try to make Her feel better when
you have upset Her and She tells you to leave (when She does not
really mean it and is just testing to see if you really do care).
21. To be presented with gifts that She truly loves, proving that
you took the time to notice and made the effort to make note of
what She likes.
This list of course goes on (Like I already said, Women are more complex that men. For the most part it is due to that fact that Women use both sides of their brain whereas men only use one. A fact that has been proven by scientists).
It is not expected that you know a Woman inside and out (men who have been married for 50 years still do not know all that would make his Wife happy), or that you carry this list with you where ever you go, because a Woman just wants to know that you care enough about Her to try and that you feel She is worth the extra effort.
So to answer your question again, no it is not unusual for
a man to want to submit to a Woman. It is the most common and
normal thing in life."
Videos on how to please Women:
How to Worship a Goddess
Goddess Party
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Supreme Goddess Lorena. All Rights Reserved.
Goddess Carole's Advice: "No, it's the natural order of things as
it should be!"
Lady Kyla's Advice: "Why would a man want to submit
to a Woman? They submit to all of us every day, on many different
levels. men need Women, they need to be guided and shown the way.
They need Us for love, for sex, for procreation...and they need
to be USED. men need to serve Women. It isn't even a dominance
or a submissive issue at this basic level: men need to be wanted.
It gives them a feeling of satisfaction to know that they can
fix something, or make it better. That's why it's so hard to get
a man to listen to a Woman bitching or complaining or talking
about Her feelings. She just wants to get it out and
dump it, rant and rave a bit and be done with it. But men want
to FIX it. They can't just sit there and listen to a problem,
they have to come up with some silly way to solve the problem,
no matter how small it may be. And then the fact that men are
raging with testosterone and are lead by their erections most
of the time...don't even get Me started. If you are a Woman, you
hold the cards. I was just explaining this to a friend today,
and then I get this email. A man, if he is a decent one, will
treat you like a Goddess at the beginning of any relationship.
And Women wonder why men lose interest, or start being mean, or
demanding, or a "dog." The reason is this: When a Woman
is first in a sexual relationship, the man needs Her more than
She needs him. And this goes on, and She has the control in the
relationship, if She is secure enough in Herself to keep the power.
But too often, Women fall in love with a man and start to think..."I
love so and so and he makes me feel so great. What would I ever
do without him?" When a Woman stops wanting a man, and begins
to need him, the tables are turned. he then has the control, and
You will begin to be neglected and slowly lose his respect. You
start to try and change yourself to make him happy, but you don't
need to change. All you need to do is be the strong, independent
Woman who he fell in love with. As long as you never let him become
your "other half" You will usually be able to maintain
control and a happy relationship. If you are a strong and independent
Woman and your man is still a dickhead, You already know that
You need to kick him to the curb. So go do it already, find a
new man to serve You and don't let him get away with being less
than wonderful to You. You deserve it. And to the men who are
smart enough to dig a little deeper within yourselves, you already
realize that Women are the essence of the world, and without Us,
it would be a very dull place."
worshipper slave bruce's Advice: "Absolutely not!
In fact i find just the opposite to be true. Women are obviously
Superior to men so it only makes sense that we should submit to
them. They live longer, are smarter, think with their brains and
not their penises, know how to handle money and don't squander
it like men, and basically deserve to be placed on a pedestal
and worshipped as the Goddesses they are. A man can only find
true happiness when he accepts his position in life and realizes
how lucky he is to be able to serve the Superior Female. It is
really a great burden off one's mind to not have to make decisions
and just do as You are told, knowing the person you are obeying
is smarter than you and knows what is best for you."
worshipper slave c.'s Advice: "As a male who has believed
in Female Supremacy and Female Domination since early childhood,
submission to the Female by the male has always been a most normal
and natural state. It has never felt wierd or unatural, even as
a very young boy i remember that i considered the Girls as my
superiors in every way and looked upon Them as the personification
beauty and good in the world around me. my desire has always been
to kneel, submit and worship the Female.
The patriatchal society that We/we live
in still tries to relegate Women to second class citizens out
of fear and knowing that the Female is superior to the male. To
maintain this position of power, any desire to submit to Women
in made to be looked upon as weird, weak and perverted. It has
been so successfully implanted that even the Women outwardly support
this position,
even though subconsciously They know They are the superior sex.
This attitude will not change until Women come to the full realization
that the male subconsciously desire the Female to take control
and They begin to feel comfortable dominating the male.
There is a sense of total freedom and
elation in surrendering and submitting oneself unconditionally
to the Female - to have a Woman take control of a male, having
him totally wrapped around Her little finger, submitting to Her
every whim. To the male who has not experienced the pure joy and
awe of being stripped naked and whipped by a Woman; to grovel
in unbridalled abasement at Her feet, thanking Her for Her ministrations.
To feel Her power permeating and overwhelming every part of his
being. Once a male has experienced this, he will never be able
to go back to a male dominated society, but will follow his Owner
happily as She leads him around on Her leash."
worshipper slave x.j.'s Advice: "No, not really. Men
have been serving Women since the dawn of time. When the caveman
went out hunting and brought back food for his Lady love, he was
serving Her. When the knight in shining armor returned the handkerchief,
which a Damsel 'accidentally' dropped, he was serving Her. When
the old-fashioned husband went to work each day and brought home
a large paycheck for his Wife, he was serving Her. Even in modern
times, men are constantly serving Women; it's just not always
recognized as such.
There is little doubt that men have buried deep inside of their subconscious a need to serve and worship Women. It is the natural order of things. The question is how do men respond to that need?
Some men fight the urge and try to regain power by other means - such as economic power or even brute strength. It is the last strategy that is the root cause of violence against Women in our society.
The second path is that of the "true submissive" or "slave". He realizes that he needs to worship Women and that he is powerless in Their presence. This type of male tends to "go with the flow" - giving in to his urges to submit.
The difference between the two men is
that one tries to swim upstream while the other moves and floats
with the current."
worshipper slave roger k.'s Advice: "i'm not sure
what to say, why would it be weird for a man to want to submit
to Women? Many women think that they are inferior to their boyfriends
and everyone finds it normal.
Personally, i don't care much anymore. i've always wanted to submit
to Women and i believe it is my duty to do so. Some
people might say it's weird, i say it's the nature of things.
If each and every person was alike, the world would be a dull
place to live in.
Word of advice, don't fight your destiny unless you feel like
living a miserable life."
worshipper slave danny k.'s Advice: "Males are taught
early on in life that they are to be rough and tough little boys,
and grow up to become big and strong men, and to be good providers.
Everything society teaches boys is directed towards being dominant
and strong, and worst of all, insensitive. Boys are not supposed
to cry or be upset for hurting another person's feelings. They
are allowed to be disrespectful to their Mother, but taught to
admire their father. How backwards can things get?
Eventually we (males) grow up and try
to fulfill the abstract teachings of our parents and society.
As time goes on we may seem to accomplish this, and get away with
being disrespectful to the Females we encounter or love, and fool
our peers into believing we are the strong masculine males that
only exists in the WWF (World Wrestling Federation). The fact
is we have only denied the nature of the true male, and sensitive,
supportive, and submissive creature that seeks the acceptance
of a more Superior Woman. Some males actually manage to get through
life without ever admitting to these feelings, but most eventually
breakdown to the emptiness they feel inside, and seek out a Dominant
Mistress to submit to. They need to use a Mistress because they
cannot face the humiliation of admitting to their loved spouse
that they are anything less than the jerk She accepted him to
be."
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