From the video Goddess Party
"With all the number of men who want to submit to Women, why don't more Women try to get what they want out of life by dominating these men?"
Supreme Goddess Lorena's Advice: "Many Women do in fact dominate men. It is just that these Women may not dominate a man the way he wants so he complains She is not dominant enough then he seeks another Woman to serve who will cater more to his fetish. However, it is true that Women in general can be much more dominant towards men that they allow themselves to be. She should not be manipulated by a man to dominate him the way he wants, but She should instead dominate him in the way that is most beneficial to Herself (since he should exist to serve Her and not the other way around). Every Wife, or any other Woman who has gotten to know a certain man for a long period of time, knows just how to get Her husband to do what She wants. Whether it be called manipulating, blackmailing, nagging, seducing, or a reward system, She knows exactly what to do or how to say things to get him to do as She wishes. It takes years of practise and if it is done right then the man will not even notice that She is doing it and he will feel more than happy to comply with Her wishes. Pausing before an unopened door as I see a man approaching it, is just one example. Stressing how beautiful a pair of shoes in a store's window are in the hopes of him wanting to buy them for Me so he can see Me happy, is yet another example. Even just small things like that are ways in which a Woman can dominate a man so She can get all that Her heart desires. To make Her life better. To make Her feel happy, pleased, content, and satisfied.
Though the problem is that many Women either do not know how to make a man do what She wants or She does not want to ask it of him in fear of upsetting him, and thus losing him. Women who would rather not ask anything of him are the kind of Women who cherish the security they feel with him so much that they do not want to jeopardise the relationship. She will even go as far as to please him in anyway he wants so She can keep him and the relationship. She may fear that he will one day leave Her with a large mortgage to pay, 5 kids to feed and care for, and with no job or income while he re-lives the carefree life of a single man and seeks a younger and more beautiful Woman to spend the rest of his life with. So She instead allows him to treat Her like a maid, housekeeper, cook, and babysitter.
Strangely enough though, the submissive homemaker Wife wants the exact same things that any dominant Woman wants also. Both types of Women want to feel wanted, needed, protected, loved, cherished, and looked after. But to the homemaker submissive Wife, She regrettably would rather feel that way by devotedly doing his dirty laundry while he flies to Mexico with his Mistress Secretary for a so-called business convention. Both the dominant Woman and the homemaker may each feel happy with the way they have it, yet one Woman may feel miserable more often than the other and She dares not to complain and instead will prefer to just go into states of depression and denial. Which one of the two would do this, you ask? The submissive homemaker Wife of course. At times She may feel content having a husband who brings home a paycheck while She cares for the kids and what he refers to as 'his' home that he had worked so long and hard to 'provide' for Her, but at other times She will wonder what a life with a different man would be like. Why would She think that to get a better life, She needs to find a better man? Because many Women still grow up thinking that men are a knight or a prince on a horse who will wisk Her away to another land where he will give Her the life She's dreamed of or read about. She may not feel capable of getting it for Herself, whether it be because of low paying wages for Women, no univeristy education, a lack of confidence in Herself, or some other reason, so She instead hopes that the right kind of man will be able to give it to Her. But no Woman should put Her hopes in a man that way. It will only lead to disappointment and no man may ever be able to satisfy Her. She should build for Herself the life She wants and any man in Her life should only be looked at as being an additional person who may be able to help in making Her life even better than it already is. She should not feel dependant or reliant on anyone, especially a man. This way if She marries him and the marriage ends, She is not left feeling devastated. She should maintain a career (and/or have a healthy size bank account in Her own name), have someone who can help with raising the kids (whether it be him the father, or a nanny), and the house should be in Her name (or both of theirs, if She so chooses). The most common complaint of newly divorced Wives is that they feel stranded with no identity, no friends, no hope, no money, no career, and costly bills to pay but no money to pay them with. She gave too much of Herself and gave up all control over Her life when She married. (Not that divorced men do not feel such feelings also, but Women in general feel it more since they generally give up more control to their husbands).
The Dominant Woman never has to feel this way (if She does then She is not in enough control as She should be). She seeks to be served but She does not feel reliant on him being in Her life. She knows that She can always find another man who would cherish the mere thought of being able to cater to Her every whim. She does not feel dependant on men. She makes certain that She has control over Her home, Her business, and Her bank account. The man/men in Her life must look after Her home, assist with Her business, and add his/their earnings to Her bank account, but She does not let Herself feel that She would be at a complete loss if any man should leave Her service. She will just find another man and She is always powerful and in control so She can also look after Herself. Every Woman in power knows that it is not wise to allow others to serve you without knowing how to do those things yourself. Having help to do things and not having time to do it yourself is one thing. But having no knowledge at all in how to do things in your own life only gives other people control over your life. A Dominant Woman should be an educated Woman and an independant Woman, but an independant Woman who is served and catered to.
No, not enough Women know the power they have over men. Women
can give life and nurture life, they are intuitive, and they can
make a man puddy in their hands by just a mere glance in his direction.
men will always want Women and they will always do stupid things
in the hopes of getting a Woman. Women can use that but many of
them do not. Women can get men to do what they want but they do
not know that they hold such power. They could have so much more
out of life but they won't reach out and take it. They instead
think that men hold all the power. But do they? Physical strength
is nothing. The power of the mind is much stronger."
Goddess Party
Copyright © 2001, 2002 Supreme
Goddess Lorena. All Rights Reserved.
Goddess Diana's Advice: "Because it can be easier to get what you
want in other ways."
Goddess Carole's Advice: "My thoughts on the reasons
why women don't dominate more, considering the large numbers of
submissive men goes like this. My feeling is that the great majority
of women do not understand at all the potential power they have
over the male by controlling the sexual energy. Women haven't
done a very good job of educating each other about it
and therefore women continue to be in the role of submissiveness
or in the attitude of 'standing by your man'. I believe little
girls are taught this attitude right from the beginning and it
is difficult to break and change that basic implanted idea. I
also think our feminist sisters have missed the target by addressing
occupational and social issues much more than the control issues
of the basic human sexual response in obtaining what we deserve
in life. In my own case, I know I certainly didn't understand
the power we have to control our males through controlling sexual
energy until I learned about female supremacy and what males respond
to and what they really cannot resist if trained properly. That
empowerment allows those of us who know about it to exercise the
control we need to train our males to give homage to us and to
truly worship us as Goddesses. We need to educate our sisters
wherever we can to know about this power and to teach them that
in order to better their own roles within society, they can do
it by being in control of the males in their lives. I must also
say that there are some of us who prefer to be submissive to the
male and who bask in our own helplessness. I don't condemn them
for that, nor do I think we can ever
change them, but the consequences are sure in that they will never
be treated as Goddesses and cared for like those of us who assume
our true destiny and nature to be in control. As females, we are
blessed with superior gifts in this life and we can exercise those
intellectual and personal gifts to change this order in society.
Goddess Club can be the beginning of a great force for such change
in its educational and training materials. Goddess Lorena has
shown remarkable insight and intellect in
declaring the mission for delivering female supremacy."
Lady Kelly's Advice: "These women need to be a little
more observing and open minded. Although we are in a new century,
there are a large percentage of us who were raised with so called
'Traditional' values. It is the open minded and new generation
of women that are carrying us to our respectable level. The emergence
of more dominant and independent women along with a growing femdom
education (Goddessclub) culture has allowed our visually 'stimulated'
mates to discover a new age. Whether males accept it or not, the
vast majority do posess feminine and/or submissive traits. Look
at the growing gay population and transexual popultation. Obviously
the impact on males is great if more want to be women . There
are a variety of studies that show the impact of women in society.
The IQ level of females has surpassed males and growing along
with job growth and income level. Interesting, 7 out of 10 couples
I know, the females income was at a higher level than the male,
a rather volatile position for the male. This has been the case
for the past 2 years in our household. You do not necessarily
have to be a higher income earner to be a dominant. Just observe
and listen to your mate's actions. Males are very visual. Change
your bedroom and dress habits a little. Try to dress for work
or special occasions without him observing what you have underneath.
'What he doesn't know will change him'. Gradually wear more and
more dominant attire and add some black to your wardrobe (ie.
Leather, pantyhose, thigh high boots or stilletos- all worked
well on my husband). Don't just jump into bed. Have him massage
or caress you with your clothes on and make him appreciate your
body more without having to expose it so easily. The gradual transformation
that you will see will surprise you (This is the only way to effectively
transform the roles). Remember you control the flow and use some
instruments to give your mate a submissive feel. It's only a matter
of using your natural qualities to bring out the submissive in
him."
worshipper slave bruce's Advice: "Well there are a
number of reasons. First of all, most of these men who want to
submit to Women are not true submissives, but rather men who want
to 'top from the bottom'. In the society i envision, men should
only exist to serve Women and make their life more comfortable,
not just submit to them to satisfy a sexual 'kink'. Secondly,
unfortunately, most Women are raised to be submissive to the male
and feel more comfortable in this role. Though i feel through
the teachings of Goddess Lorena and other Female Supremacists
that this will someday change, unfortunately it is still all too
prevalent. The point is, most Women really do not know the power
they possess over the inferior male. A man thinks with
his 'lower brain' all too often. But again, it is a case of society
dictating what roles each gender should play. In my opinion, in
the next 100 years or so Women will rule and people will laugh
when they read in history books how men used to be the dominant
sex. It is laughable to me even today."
worshipper slave c.'s Advice: "This is a very interesting
question in that judging from the number of FemDom sites on the
internet, on the surface there appears to be a virtually endless
supply of slaves just waiting to be dominated by Women. However
on closer examination of these males who claim to be Female Supremists,
it turns out that many of these individuals just want Women to
cater to their own particular fetish with little regard for the
wants and needs of the Female, essentially treating Women as nothing
more than whores. This attitude by the male does little to generate
interest in Women to dominate them.
At the same time Women are fighting a conditioning that has been instilled in them since their early years to cater to the needs of the male and the desire for the Female to dominate the male is sinister and evil. This conditioning, generation after generation, has become a very powerful force, preventing Women from assuming their rightful place over the male.
Women are just beginning to understand
the true power They have over the male and it will take time for
Them to become comfortable with it and exploit it to its full
potential, at the same time re-educating the male that the needs
of the Female must come first and foremost. The transition will
initially be very gradual and hardly noticeable, as the image
of the dominant
Female becomes more widespread and part of the norm, picking up
speed dramatically as it becomes apparent to both the Female and
the male that Female Supremacy and Female Domination is the natural
order of things. Patience is required, as we are creatures of
habit, but eventually the new world order of a Female dominated
society will be established."
worshipper slave x.j.'s Advice: "This is a very good
question, and i'm not sure that i have an answer. i feel that
there may be three reasons.
1) Some Women are simply not aware of their power over men. In this case, a Woman's inner dominant self can be brought out by education and training.
This is the case with many Women who
are completely ignorant of the D/s lifestyle and have never tried
it. Often They are introduced to the 'scene' by a submissive husband
who wishes to be dominated by his Wife. These Women learn to control
the relationship by using sex as a carrot and stick to slowly
gain control of the male. The male than does everything the Wife
asks in order to get the simplest of sexual rewards. Many Women
find that They enjoy this type of relationship immensely, and
never look back.
2) Many Woman are simply not Dominant. This is sad, but true. Some Women would be deathly unhappy in a femdom relationship. They want the man to take charge and lead the way. A few days ago, i saw on the news that a book telling Women to let their husband take total control of the relationship was a national bestseller. It was flying off the shelves! And all the buyers were Women. (Ironically, the Woman who wrote the book is now rich, and Her husband works for Her).
i also remember reading an essay by a Pro Dom who claimed that She has given up on trying to teach Women to be more dominant. She said that She would preach, and preach, and that the Women would just stare at Her as if She had lost Her mind. She claims that most Women are submissive by nature and that the Fem Dom is a rare bird.
i also know that many Women will leave a relationship and lose respect for the man if he acts too submissive and does whatever She wishes.
3) Many men don't really want to be dominated by Women, but rather wish Her to satisfy his fetishes. It is said that while finding a Woman to serve, worship, and control the relationship is not as hard as many people think, finding a Woman who likes to engage in BD or SM is very hard.
On a positive note, i recall reading
in a survey that when Women were asked what they like the most
that men do in courting - many replied, 'I love it when they treat
me like a Goddess'. i wish i knew who these Women were - i'd tell
them to join the Goddess Club."
worshipper slave roger k.'s Advice: "i was actually
wondering the same thing and it's kind of hard to explain. Maybe
they're afraid of being judged by others so instead they just
become part of the society following it's rules, it's trends,
etc. Amazingly nowadays it's really hard to distinguish the differences
between few persons. They all seem to walk alike, dress alike
and speak alike. Reminds me of the German movie Metropolis :)
. i'm not exactly sure what the answer is but i'm betting it's
the fact that they're afraid of being judged."
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