From the video Mistress's Footslave
"When searching for a FemDom, why do so many Dominant Women turn out to be a ProDom and why do most of these ProDoms cater to their clients' fetishes instead of truly Domming them?"
Supreme Goddess Lorena's Advice:
"To answer this question I must first explain why many Women
in general require financial support from men. I will then answer
the question as to why Dominant Women end up ProDomming.
Women plan ahead for the future, look for commitment in a man,
and care alot about having security. But they often have
a hard time finding men who will give a Woman financial support.
he will spend hundreds to thousands of dollars to woo Her with
dinners and gifts (gifts which will often be quite frivolous and
unuseful to Her) but the moment She asks him to pay Her telephone
bill or to buy Her groceries then he runs away scared. Why? Because
many men fear that once he starts paying Her bills that he will
be expected to keep it up or that She will then eventually ask
for a commitment such as marriage. One slave of Mine said that
he used to prefer seeing how a Woman's face would light up when
receiving a gift from him and that Her face would not light up
this way when he would pay Her bills. Yes, it is true. There is
nothing exciting about a mortgage bill getting paid. But Her different
reaction should not be misunderstood as Her not appreciating the
considerate gesture. It may not look as wonderfully surprising
as a fur coat in a gift box but She knows that a home paid for
is better than being a homeless person in a fur coat.
men often complain that Women in his past had only used him for
his money. But it helps to know both sides of the story. She may
not have left him for that reason after getting money from him.
What Woman in Her right mind would leave a man who is giving Her
money?! Instead She may have left him over other reasons which
were unknown to him so he assumes it was just over the money or
perhaps he got selfishly demanding after giving Her money and
She did not like his manipulative manner. However, there are
Women out there who do take advantage of men who give easily.
he should be careful not to give too much too soon and should
wait until he knows Her better. To test the waters, so to speak.
But once knowing a Woman well enough, a man should give more freely
knowing that Women in general still usually make less money than
men and some may even be unable to work at all, depending on Her
situation.
For instance, in My situation men often apply for training and
hope that I will train them by email for free and even though
they know that I give alot of My time by training many slaves
each and every day and for several months. There is nothing wrong
with wanting some things in life for free but asking it of a webMistress
is selfish, considering that websites cost anywhere from hundreds
to thousands of dollars a month to run and that a webOwner often
puts in over 15-18 hours a day to maintain and update the site
and to answer emails.
There are the following costs involved:
Computer
A vast array of softwares
ISP
Webhost
Any additional servers
Excess bandwidth costs (which you the browser cause)
FTP
Phone line or ADSL or cable access
Printer
Scanner
Copy/printing paper
CD Rom burner
Computer repairs
Computer hardware parts
CD's
Floppies
Zip drives
VCRs
Video camera
Cameras
Film
Video tapes
Tripods
Packaging
Costumes
Props
Business address
Business bank account
etc etc etc...
WebMistresses pay for these costs by doing either one or more
or all of the following:
1. Charging membership access (which then costs them more to run
a password system).
2. A 1-900 line to train slaves by phone.
3. Charging a slave's visa to train him by email.
4. ProDomming to charge slaves for hourly in person training.
5. Product sales
Goddess club is a free website without paid membership and passwords.
Though it is not free to run a free website. There is also no
fee for the actual training itself in the slave Training Program
though training slaves takes alot of My valuable time and it costs
Me money to train them, whether the trainee slaves realize it
or not. So how does Goddess club's bills get paid and how does
the cost of training slaves get paid?
Goddess club pays it's monthly bills with the sales of products
and the costs that occur from training slaves gets paid by sales
of training products and by slaves offerings of devotional tributes.
If ever the total profit should not be enough to cover
the total costs then Goddess club would have to become
a paid membership website and/or I would have to charge slaves
for each email I reply to when training them and/or I would have
to start ProDomming by charging an hourly rate.
Now, to answer the original question. Why do FemDoms end up ProDomming?
Some men feel that Women exist only to serve men sexually since
that maybe the only thing he wants from a Woman. So even if he
thinks he is a slave or says that he wants to be a slave
and so he sees a ProDom, he wrongfully feels that his fetish should
be catered to since he is paying for what he misunderstands to
be a session instead of training/learning. But a real
Dominant does not exist to cater to the wants and likes of
a slave. The slave is supposed to be there to serve the Mistress
and not the other way around.
Fetish: what a person likes and wants.
Session: a time period in which the 'slave' plays at and
pretends to be submissive and in which the 'Mistress' gives the
'slave' what he wants.
A man's fetish does not serve the Woman unless She too likes and
wants it and also not unless it is done when and how She likes
it. men often complain that they are not fulfilled (most often
they mean sexually) in their marriage because they are
not getting what they want out of it. he explains that he seeks
Domination elsewhere because his Wife is not Dominant and/or will
not Dominate him. But to be honest, most Wives in general are
in fact Dominant towards their husbands. It is just that he wants
Her to Dominate him the way he likes it. he does not want to wash
the dishes. he wants to be smothered in bed or he wants to be
'forced' to wear Her lingerie (The list of course goes on and
on and varies with each slave). This is the very reason why Prostitutes
have been around for so many years. She needs money (security)
and he wants sex and he wants it done the way he likes it. So
he agrees to pay Her money if She will give him sex. 'Tit' for
tat. Some Wives are even thankful that their husband fools around
with other Women. She feels relieved to know that no pressure
is put on Her anymore to do 'those kinds of things'. So FemDoms
become ProDoms for this reason also. They need money and since
they keep meeting slaves who are demanding about getting their
fetish fulfilled She feels 'Why should I give him what
he wants for nothing?! What do I get?!' This is also the reason
why slaves complain that they keep finding ProDoms who they feel
are not 'real' Doms. In order to make more money, the ProDom finds
that She must give the 'client' what he wants. It is why ProDomming
is still viewed as prostitution by many. Because the ProDom gives
the client what he wants and the client most often hopes to be
forced to serve Her sexual since that is what he wants
from Her. (ProDoms advertise that their service is strictly
non-sexual yet they would confirm that their clients persist at
asking for sex during a session. The men insist that oral 'worship'
and a sexual release at the end is not sex. clinton would of course
foolishly agree with them). These are the very reasons why I Myself
do not want to ProDom. The slave (client) expects to be catered
to instead of catering to Me. That is the very thing I am against
and what I teach about.
To the man who wants to find a real FemDom and one who
is not a ProDom, I suggest:
1. Serve Her by giving Her the fetish She wants and likes
and give it to Her how and when She likes it. Expect nothing in
return and just hope that She will reward You but She will do
so when and how She likes to.
2. Be willing to support Her financially if She needs it. She
should not have to struggle financially or work at a job where
She is not treated like the Superior Being that She is and She
should not be forced into having to ProDom. Know that serving
Her in this way is no different that serving Her in any other
way."
For further advice on this subject, read Why
Dominant Women Have A Hard Time Finding A Good slave
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Goddess Lorena. All Rights Reserved.
Goddess Diana's Advice: "That's the same question as: 'When looking
for a car, why aren't there any free ones you can drive away,
and why do the salesmen try to sell you what you want, instead
of what you need?' "
Lady Carole's Advice: "Since I have been in the scene
such a short time, my experience is limited. But let me express
an opinion at first glance at the issue. Knowing a little about
markets and issues surrounding supply and demand, there must be
a huge demand for FemDoms and not a large supply available. I
would guess then, that the market would be enticing and lucrative
to enter on a ProDom basis than to simply live the lifestyle for
the sake of the female supremacy principles (which
I view you, Goddess Lorena, as Supreme Goddess espousing). My
guess is that most ProDoms care less about principle female supremacy
or domination than they do about what the market is in terms of
being paid to dominate on the man's terms. I've read about topping
from the bottom, and I guess that's what guys do who want particular
forms of domination or to play on their fetishes. Another aspect
is in the underlying motivations for being in the marketplace
for financial gain or sexual pleasure or what. In my case, and
maybe I'm a dying breed, but I am in it only because I have come
to believe in female supremacy and yet I have a happy monogomous
marriage with complete marriage fidelity in it. I am not seeking
additional submissives, nor would I consider doing so, but within
my own marriage, I am really enjoying the newly found power of
taking charge and becoming a supreme female. That is what I found
to be so refreshing in the Goddess Club was that our needs as
women were the paramount thing and not catering to the fetishes
of the males. My husband is definitely submissive in basic nature,
and I am enjoying learning a new pattern of relationship with
myself being in charge. But as we have begun changing the basic
picture of who is in charge and who will be satisfied and when,
both he and I are very much enjoying what is happening. We are
now closer and more intimate than we have been for 5-10 years
in our marriage and it is like a whole new fire has been started
between us. We have a long term love affair with each other and
that love is growing because of what I have learned and what I
am now doing in assuming a supremacy role in the marriage. ProDomming
is not even an issue with me and at my age it will
likely not be, but are we enjoying our relationship now------YES!!!!!
I'm having near orgasms just having my feet being pampered for
the past two weeks, and my needs are being met for the first time
in those 5-10 years!! My husband? yes, maybe he is getting off
on this too, but I can assure all of you that he is definitely
not topping from the bottom because this is MY PARTY in MY HOUSE
in MY MARRIAGE!!!!"
worshipper slave bruce's Advice: "This is a very good
question. As a Female Supremacist, my ideal world would be where
all men served the Superior Female without any regard to their
own fetishes and desires. Unfortunately, most men are ruled by
their penises, and thus seek out Women to fulfill their fantasies.
In a capitalistic society, You certainly cannot blame a Woman
for becoming a Pro Domme as it pays very well. A majority of these
Women will cater to their clients fetishes instead of truly domming
them as they are more interested in keeping him as a customer
and making more money, rather than having the responsibility of
actually owning a slave. in my opinion, these Women are not really
Dominant Women, and these types of men are not really slaves.
On the other hand, i know there are a lot of Pro Dominant Women
who actually do live the lifestyle and are very selective in who
they see. They only take on slaves who do not make demands and
are willing to do anything the Mistress says without question.
A true Mistress-slave relationship can only exist in this type
of situation. Hopefully in the future as Women become more enlightened
to the power they actually possess there will be more of this."
worshipper slave x.j.'s Advice: "i think that most
dominant Women discover Their sexual preference through Their
male lover who wishes to experiment. Once They try it, They find
They like it, and start to pursue the lifestyle on Their own.
In
this case, the Woman does not necessarily turn Pro, but becomes
the Mistress of Her spouse or lover. This type of Woman is difficult
to find. And, since many submissive males fear rejection from
their spouse they may never broach the subject, and miss the chance
to awaken the potential Mistress lying dominant within their lover.
Thus, these males turn to Pro doms to fulfill their fetishes.
Pro doms, i feel fall into one of two categories. In the first category is the Pro-Dom who is a complete fake. This is a Woman who is 'straight' and is in the business strictly for money. She hates Her job, and views the lifestyle with contempt. Once other career opportunities open up, She leaves the business.
In the second category is the Woman who genuinely enjoys fem domming. However, She also realizes that money can be made by Pro-domming. So, She starts taking on clients as a source of income. Even when this type of Woman has enough money to retire, She may still look for slaves because She truly enjoys being a Mistress.
i think, if one is looking for a Pro-dom, it is best to try to find a Mistress in the second category, and then to build a trusting long term relationship. The Mistress, on the other hand, should find out what fetishes She likes, and then try to attract clients with that fetish.
i think it is important to realize that
in this world everyone needs money to survive. Few of us are financially
independent. So, We/we try to find work doing a job We/we like.
Fem doms are no different than anyone else. Some love Their jobs,
others hate them. The trick is finding the former and avoiding
the later."
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