From the instructional training video How to Worship a Goddess
"What could the reason be why a man has had no success in finding a Dominant Female Owner to serve
if he has already been actively searching for several years?"
worshipper slave bruce m.'s Advice: "i think the answer to this question is
easy. i find that most males, even ones who consider themselves
to be submissive, are actually more concerned with their own wants
and needs rather than just serving the Female unconditionally.
It is an honor for a slave to be owned by a Dominant Female and
he must remember that for every Domme, there are hundreds of other
slaves like him yearning to be owned. he must always remember
this and when he meets a Dominant Female he would like to serve,
it is paramount that he devote himself totally to Her wants and
needs and prove to Her that he is indeed someone who might prove
to be an asset in Her stable, rather than a typical wanker just
looking to satisfy his fetish. Pleasing his Goddess should be
all he should care about, and he should always remember that his
greatest joy should come from being obedient and making Her happy.
slave wannabes are a dime a dozen, and he should always remember
that Dommes have no time or use for them."
worshipper slave james s.'s Advice: "A man trying
to find a Dominant Female Owner had a very difficult time before
the advent of the internet. In vanilla life, most people do not
personify their Dom/sub personality and even with the internet,
with people being spread over the entire globe, it could still
be difficult to locate someone within a reasonable distance. But
an even greater problem is the lack of honesty among so many members
of the internet community. It is so easy to take on an entirely
new character online, when the chances of meeting are so slim.
Surfers and chatters soon learn to take most first impressions
with a grain of salt (or more), waiting to see the true person
emerge at the other end of the correspondence. And even when a
true contact is made, whether in person or on the internet, when
fantasy becomes fact, many can't live up to it. 'Be careful what
you wish for, because it may come true' could be the motto of
people seeking to fulfill their Dom/sub fantasies. So many of
the would be dominates are really subs or switches looking for
anyone to take an interest in them. To take responsibility for
another, as my Owner, Goddess Lorena, has done with me, is no
small matter. It takes patience and dedication to the cause. The
step from fantasy to function can be difficult for many. So when
a man finds a Woman worthy of Goddess status, who is willing to
own him, with all the responsibilities of it, he should consider
himself lucky. Such amazing Women are few and far between. i know
it took many years, but i am finally owned by the one who truly
deserves my service. So if a man has tried for what seems to be
an eternity, and can still not find an owner, i would suggest
he just can not recognize the Woman when he has encountered Her.
he likely has some preconcieved perception of his Mistress and
has not been open to appreciate a Goddess when She was right in
front of him."
worshipper slave x.j.'s Advice: "There are one of
two reasons this could be occurring.
1) he is meeting and finding dominant Women, but the relationships tend to fall apart. The main reason that this occurs is - topping from the bottom. Many so called 'slaves' can be very demanding by always telling the Mistress how to do Her job, and never being satisfied. In such a case, the Mistress will soon become frustated with the slave and leave the relationship. Naturally, the fault here lays clearly with the submissive male. he must re-examine his motives for wanting to serve a Mistress, and learn to concentrate more on meeting Her needs rather than his own.
2) There are very few dominant Women
out there. This is sad, but true. Even the best slave in the world
can have trouble finding a Mistress. For every one dominant
Woman, there are probably a hundred submissive males. This
means the competition can be fierce. In this case, the slave simply
has to keep on trying and hoping that he will meet that special
someone."
worshipper slave brian h.'s Advice: "There are many
reasons why a man has had no success in finding a Dominant Female
Owner to serve if he has already been actively searching for several
years.
It can be he is selfish. He might be looking for a one time only session when he has that urge for that moment to be dominated by a Women.
Most Dominant Female Owners do not want a one time only session. They want to help a sub make a commitment and stick with it no matter what. In that way they can better understand the sub.
Most men feel that they can top as well as be a sub. This makes the Dominant partner feel that they are been used.
Men feel that if they please a Domme then they should get something in return. It is not for their pleasure that the relationship is all about. It is to please the Dominant Women and not vice versa.
Attitude is also very important. A man should respect a Dominant Female Owner. He should be polite, courteous and address Her the way She wants to be addressed.
He should be attentive and obey his Mistress or Goddess at all times.
He should never worship another Mistress as long as he is under training with one Mistress. It means that he should stay focused on that Mistress.
He should also help Her financially because She should not have to work. She deserves to be treated like a Mistress or Goddess.
Finally, he should stay focused and believe
that All Women are Superior."
Supreme Goddess Lorena's Advice: "There
are many reasons why this might happen. It could be because of
any one of these things:
#1. he has focused too much on finding a Mistress who will suit
his own needs. A Mistress/slave relationship is similar to vanilla
relationship in that each party must share common interests and
ideals. However, each partner should also be accepted for their
differences. It is too much to expect the other person to share
all of your interests or fetishes.
#2. he has not been sincere in wanting to serve any of these Women
who he has already applied to or he has not been sincere in wanting
to serve anyone of them in particular. These Women have more than
likely seen through his disception and lies and so have rejected
him. A Woman should beware of any man who has either applied
to or has served numerous Women in the past or if he
has been in numerous and short lived relationships.
I all too often receive application letters from slaves who have
already applied to Me before and again quite often they do not
even realize that they have done so. They have applied to so many
Women that they cannot even keep their records straight.
#3. he has not been looking in the right places or has not been
searching for the right kind of Owner. Many FemDom Women are in
reality not very Dom at all. Alot of submissive men complain to
Me that other Mistresses they have met in the past had only catered
to his fetishes instead of truly dominating him or the Mistress
had only seemed to care about making money off of owning
him. Real slaves are looking for real Dominance.
#4. he has only been looking for quick-fixes for his occasional
fetish urges. If he is finally serious about wanting to find an
Owner then he must look for a real Dominant Woman and upon
finding Her he should be willing to commit to Her permanently
(if both him and Her feel that they will do well for each other).
Life is too short to commit to the wrong person but it is even
shorter for a lonely, unfulfilled, and unowned slave.
#5. If the four previous listed reasons above do not apply to
him yet he still has been unable to find any Dominant Women
at all then it could very well be because there are few existing
Dominant Females compared to the amount of submissive men. Why?
Because most Women in general just want to be cared for and looked
after. They rarely have a fetish. But they are Dominant.
(If a man truly wants to be told what to do and to be owned then
he should just get married!). Where as men in general have many
fetishes even if they are not submissive because they relate fetishes
to sex. Many husbands find that they can get their Wife to try
his fetish but only in the bedroom but many Women find that men
will not serve them outside of the bedroom. More Women
should dominate men outside of the bedroom and more men should
cater to and serve Women outside of the bedroom. Only this will
produce Female Supremacy."
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