From the video Goddess Party
"Should a man who wants to be a slave and to serve Women, marry a Woman who is NOT Dom
and should he tell his Wife about his submissive interests?"
Supreme Goddess Lorena's Advice: "If a man truly wants to serve Women then why would he not want to serve his Wife in this way? It maybe one of two things. Either it is because he knows Her well enough that he is certain She would reject and be repulsed by the idea OR it is because he worries that She will like it too much and he will then lose the control or freedom he once had in the relationship. It would then no longer be a 50/50 partnership but a fulltime 24/7 Mistress/slave relationship. he knows that if he instead has it outside of the marriage that he can easily enough leave at any time and can go back to his vanilla life and marriage where he has more freedom and control. he may even feel that it is justified that he is seeing other Women because he may use the excuse that his Wife is not into dominating him so he must seek it elsewhere.
Why did he not marry a Dominant Woman then?
Perhaps She was Dominant and that is
why he was attracted to Her but She is not into doing his particular
'fetish' so he selfishly seeks someone else who is into doing
his fetish with him instead of just serving and pleasing his Wife
by doing what She likes.
Or maybe he does serve His Dominant Wife
in the way She wants but he wants to do even more for Female Supremacy
by serving either another or all Dominant Women in their mission
of spreading and teaching Female Supremacy. This is okay as long
as it does not interfere with his duties to his Wife.
However, if She is NOT Dominant at all and has no interest to be then again as I stated above, he may have married Her knowing She was not Dominant because he would rather Her not have such a control over him.
Should he be allowed to serve other Women then if She does not want to dominate him?
Not unless he has given his Wife a full opportunity to and She rejects it and She allows him to serve elsewhere.
What if She will not allow him to serve elsewhere and She still will not Dominate him?
he may only serve another without Her
knowing if:
-he truly feels that She would not understand
-and he is doing it only for the good of Female Supremacy
-and he is not doing it only for his own 'fetish' but to serve
Womankind
-and only if he is not being unfaithful to his Wife in any way.
How can he serve another and not be unfaithful?
-By not doing anything sexual with another
Woman without his Wife's permission. This includes intercourse
and kissing, licking, or touching Her vagina or buttocks. Serving
Womankind and committing adultery are two totally different things.
-By making sure that his Wife and family is looked after first.
ie: Her monthly bills paid, Her children's daily needs looked
after, the maintance of Her home, Her important errands done,
etc.
-By getting his Wife's permission first if at all possible.
Any Woman who owns a slave should want
and allow Her slave to serve other Women as long as he has proven
to be loyal and devoted to his Owner, it is for the good of Female
Supremacy, it is done to serve his Owner in some way, and only
if his duties to his Owner have been fulfilled first."
Goddess Party
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Goddess Lorena. All Rights Reserved.
Goddess Diana's Advice: "Love conquers all."
worshipper slave tom s.'s Advice: "As with anything
else in a relationship between two people, compromises must be
made. Everybody has their own lists of things that they like and
dislike and relationships are built upon finding common ground
on the 'likes' and developing a tolerance for the 'dislikes'.
That said, each person in a relationship should know themselves
well enough to understand just how important each of these areas
are in their own lives before they agree to a life long commitment
like marriage.
As a subservient male, you must evaluate your need to be a slave to a dominant woman. Is it an overwhelming need that you have that is constantly effecting the way you think and act? If so, you mustn't marry a vanilla wife and expect to work it out afterwards because neither of you will be happy unless she finds that she has an unexplored dominant side that she didn't know that she had. Too many men believe that just because they want to give worship and adore a beautiful woman that the woman of their desires would actually welcome there worship. Turn the tables and think about if some woman that you might not find attractive wanted to treat you like their master? Personally, I would not enjoy that at all and it would make me very uncomfortable even knowing that this person felt this way. My point is that you owe it to whomever you marry in any relationship to be honest up front about what types of things you need in your life. There are countless ways to work through situations like this as long as the two people involved truly love one another.
As for the part of the question regarding whether or not to tell your vanilla wife about your submissive interests I would recommend approaching it slowly. If this is something that has come up since you got married start by showing her how much you care by doing additional housework (I have never heard of this activity back-firing). After minimizing her household chores, explore ways to treat her special that you haven't done before (or at least not in years). Inexpensive things to try might be to offer to brush her hair, rub her feet, give her a bath, etc. Some of these may be unwelcome but usually any woman will enjoy pampering.
As long as you are sincere in your submissiveness, things will work out for the best. Remember, you are there to serve her needs, not to satisfy yours. If you keep this close to your heart, you'll make her happy which is what you should be striving for in the first place."
worshipper slave bruce's Advice: "i do not feel a
true slave should ever marry a Woman who is not Domme. First off,
he will never be able to change Her and thus lead the kind of
life he desires, and secondly, it isn't fair to the Woman who
should know what She is getting into. That said, if he unfortunately
does marry a vanilla Wife, it is his responsibility to tell Her
of his interests. Living a lie is bad for both parties involved."
worshipper slave james s.'s Advice: "If a man has
true desires to serve and be enslaved by a Woman, he should not
enter into a marriage with a Woman Who is not willing to dominate
him. his unfulfilled needs will keep Them/them from having a truly
complete relationship. If a man wants desperately to play tennis
and his Wife is not interested, it is easy enough for him to find
another tennis partner. But a man can only please and serve one
Woman, so if something as basic as the dominate/submissive issue
is in conflict, he can never feel complete. And this is not fair
to either Partner/partner in the relationship. If already married,
a man should make all his interests known to his Wife. If She
has never displayed any dominate tendencies this does not mean
She does not have them. he may be pleasantly surprised. Once he
knows Her feelings on the issue, then he can decide on if and
how to divulge his submissive interests. It is possible that She
will be so totally against the idea that he should not tell Her,
but how can She help him experience this side of his personality
if She knows nothing of it. Is it healthy if She is only pretending?
i believe that is another question in itself, but as long as She
can be sincere in Her role playing and he believes he is being
dominated, i think it would be ok. Healthy relationships need
to be built on honesty and trust, regardless of the placement
of power."
worshipper slave c.'s Advice: "This is a difficult
question to deal with, since the majority of Women have been pre-conditioned
to live in and accept a patriarchal society, as the norm. Despite
the great strides Females have made in asserting themselves and
expanding their scope of influence, existing traditional sexual
roles are 'habits' with deep roots that will not be changed overnight.
The overall effect being a population with a disproportionate
high number of vanilla Females, as compared to dominant Ones.
Coupling this with an existing large segment of the male population
(and growing) desiring to serve dominant Females, creates a situation
where the demand far outstrips the supply; these parameters setting
the stage as to how to deal with the male's submissive desires.
Firstly, dealing with the situation where the male is single and looking to marry a Woman, it would be unfair to both parties if he would not disclose to Her his desire and need to serve Her and be Her slave. Depending on how open and interested She is to experimentation and trying different things, this could be a fun step by step adventure for both, gradually leading to disclosure and hopefully Her acceptance of the male's submission. If there is love, understanding and openess between both parties, the male can help open up a whole new world to the Woman who means most to him. Whether or not the Woman accepts the male's desire to be Her slave, She needs and deserves to know what She is marrying into; otherwise the result will be a very unhappy and short-lived relationship.
Failure of the male to disclose his sexual desires to a Woman before marriage and proceeds to search out pro-Doms, after marriage, without having made an attempt to let the person that is closest to him know of these desires and needs, is a male who is not really interested in Female Supremacy and it is only an occassional diversion for him. Someone who is only interested in his own selfish sexual gratification at the expense of his Wife, betraying the person who should mean most to him.
In the case of the male already married
to a vanilla Wife, is a more difficult situation, especially if
there are children involved. Here the step of disclosure before
marriage has been bypassed, creating possibly a more confined
area for discussion and with much more serious ramifications.
If the husband is serious about serving and being a slave to a
Female, this Female should be his Wife. The husband, if too embarassed
to enter into a discussion with his Wife on this subject, can
begin by faithfully serving
his Wife. Initially, he can start doing some of the chores his
Wife finds tedious and dislikes most, gradually doing more and
more for Her, waiting on Her hand and foot, deferring to Her wishes
in all matters, becoming Her slave, if not in word, at least in
deed. A Woman likes to be pampered and taken care of. She is also
very bright and this power shift that has occured
will become very apparent to Her. If done in small gradual steps,
not overwhelming Her all at once, She will acclimatize Herself,
savouring and enjoying Her new found power. Hopefully this will
lead to a more open, honest discussion between Wife and husband,
as to their relative positions and Her acceptance of Her power.
If only after all avenues have been honestly
explored without success, some serious soul searching has to be
done as to the direction of the relationship, priorities, responsibilities
and the family unit as a whole."
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