Goddess Lorena's Advice:
There are a few different reasons as to why slaves do this and
it is important to first know why before You try to correct his
ways.
#1. he might be a switch who hopes to train You to dominate him
the way he wants and when he wants. You must find out if he likes
to, or would like to, dominate Women. If he does then You must
inform him that You have no such interest in tossing a coin each
night to see who dominates who. Let him know that You are always
Dominant and that nothing is ever going to change that. Remind
him of why he had first applied to You and that he should not
waste Your time if he is not going to live up to what he first
promised in the beginning. Tell him that either he submits to
You or he may leave.
#2. he may like a challenge and so purposely seeks to test and
manipulate You. This can be very infuriating as you feel like
you are playing tug-of-war with a slave who finds enjoyment in
testing Your abilities, pushing both Yours and his limits, and
seeing how far You will let him go before You put a stop to it.
You must first try to judge if this is in fact why he is not obeying
You. If it is then You will need to comfront him with such logic
as life is too short for childish games and so You are only interested
in being served by slaves who want to obey and behave. he will
either give up and go away to seek out a more willing foe to play
his challenging game with or he will shape up.
#3. Or like You said, he feels he is already a bad boy so he can
freely continue to misbehave, knowing that it is expected of him
(the "boys will be boys" syndrome), and the worst that
can happen is he will be punished, which is what he is hoping
and striving for. Again, this will be frustrating for You since
You feel You are being manipulated and he is not willing to even
put any effort into obeying and pleasing You. You may even feel
that in doing this he does not respect You or Your feelings. If
You find this is why he is misbehaving then You need to explain
to him how tiresome this is becoming for You and that he needs
to obey and put in more of an effort or You will dismiss him,
permanently, and without punishment.
#4. he simply does not understand the rules you have given him
or feel that You are very serious about them. he may also assume
this is just a game or a roleplay. If You do not get the impression
that he is misbehaving intentionally (such as the three previous
reasons I have listed above) but he still does not seem to try
hard to obey then this might be why his is acting this way. All
You need to do is tell him, without scolding him too harshly,
that You are very serious about being served in a manner that
You deserve to be served in, and so it is important that he obeys
and abides by the rules You set for him. he needs to understand
that he will be punished for each disobedient act only once and
if the punishment does not work then You will rid Yourself of
his services.
You will find the following videos very helpful in showing You
how to train slaves to obey and serve You. You may want Your slave(s)
to watch them also.
How to Worship a Goddess
Goddess Party
The Life of a slave
This next video is a strict punishment video for naughty boys:
School Mistress
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Goddess Alison's Advice: "Why not beat them and ditch them if they
don't smarten up? Geesh it sounds like they don't care too darn
much about being Your slave so I wouldn't waste Your time if I
were You. Don't You think so?"
Goddess Diana's Advice: "There isn't a slave shortage,
there's only a shortage of good slaves. If the slave isn't even
trying to improve, your training efforts will bear better fruit
on more fertile ground. Take him back to the pet shop."
Goddess Christine's Advice: "It sounds to me that
You need to take a firmer line. The slave needs to understand
that if he fails to provide You with the service You require and
You expect from him then he will suffer. he will need to be shown
what will happen to him if he carries on failing to satisfy You
and continues to misbehave. The punishment You give him will need
to be unpleasant and uncomfortable for him. So many slaves enjoy
their punishment and get satisfaction from it and that is good
as it keeps them happy in their enslavement. But in order to correct
behaviour, you need to make his punishment a deterrent either
by extending the punishment he enjoys beyond what he finds bearable,
or by finding some other punishment that he really
doesn't like. It is important also that you tell him very clearly
why he is being punished in this way and what You expect him
to do in order to avoid such punishment in the future. You need
to get him to associate his bad behaviour with something
unpleasant and You could perhaps reward him when You see an improvement
- though that of course is entirely up to You.
An alternative strategy that works well
in a 24/7 situation or within a long term relationship is to deny
him something until
You see his behaviour improve. You need to be very strict with
this though, so it is not a good idea to pick something that will
deny Yourself pleasure, otherwise he could play on it. If it is
something he wants sufficiently and knows that whatever happens
You will not give in, then You can be assured that things will
improve.
So many slaves see it as a game and if
you feel he is playing with You and testing You, then you will
really need to show him
who's Boss and that You are serious, by not only carrying through
everything that You threaten him with, but also by giving him
a taste what will happen if he doesn't improve - and You do need
to make it uncomfortable and unpleasant. Keep a tight rein on
him and don’t allow him any slack until you see a real improvement.
If it seems harsh and cruel, remember that like a dog with its
Trainer, if he is truly submissive, he will respect You and love
You for it, and he will want to improve so as to give You better
service and more pleasure. After all, that is what he is there
for."
Lady Kyla's Advice: "They are trying to manipulate
you, but don't let them. If a slave is misbehaving too often,
I think you should punish him with something he does NOT like.
I don't believe that punishing a man by spanking him or tying
him
up is much of a punishment if that is his fetish, now is it? A
lot of 'submissives' will misbehave in hopes that your choice
of punishment will be something that gets them hot. And if a slave
continually tries to manipulate me, I put him in his place once
and for all. I have no use for manipulative slaves. But that is
my personal opinion."
worshipper slave bruce's Advice: "Unfortunately there
are a lot of slaves who have a fetish for being punished. In order
to do this, they will purposely misbehave so their Mistress will
get mad at them and have to punish them. This is a no win
situation for the Mistress. She is not getting the service She
deserves, yet if She punishes the slave, She is actually giving
him what he wants! There are only two solutions for this. The
first is to find a punishment which the slave truly does not like.
For example, i know a Mistress who punished Her slave by making
him learn to cook Her meals. The poor slave had never cooked anything
in his life before, and this was really an unwelcome chore for
him. Barring this, the only other recourse for the Mistress is
to banish him. It is truly an honor to serve a Superior Woman
and She should not have to deal with time wasters who are not
entirely devoted to Her."
worshipper slave x.j.'s Advice: "While it is always
possible that an unrulely slave can be dimissed, i believe that
this should only be done as a last resort.
It seems to me that many slaves are naughty in order to test the Mistress, and see how much they can get away with. It is at this time that the Mistress must show the slave who is the boss. Therefore when a slave misbehaves, the Mistress should punish him. This be done by caning him, removing orgasm privileges etc.
There is a good chance that frequent
punishment will help improve the slave's behavior. If the slave's
behavior becomes beyond the Mistress's control, She should dismiss
him."
worshipper slave c.'s Advice: "It would appear that
this sort of behaviour is designed to get a reaction from You,
by doming from the bottom. These individuals, in an attempt to
have their selfish fetish needs satisfied by upsetting You enough,
hope that You will cater to them by punishing them. This situation
is artificial, disrespectful and very unsatisfying to both parties,
as it is based purely on manipulation.
This is a case of the self-gratification
of the slave at the expense of the Female. Perhaps an appropriate
response would be to ignore these infantile manipulations of the
slave as not worthy of any attention and proceed without reacting,
rather than responding to their scripted scenarios."
worshipper roger k.'s Advice: "And so why bother?
If the slave’s attitude annoys You, i guess it’ll be
a good idea to let him know how You feel about his behaviour.
But if, nevertheless he continues to misbehave, it’ll be
a good idea to throw him out and find Yourself a new slave, someone
who actually serves a purpose. You’re a Goddess and You deserve
to be properly served and worshipped."
worshipper danny k.'s Advice: "As a slave, i have
been bad in this way, and must agree with what You have wisely
stated. i do also believe that some slaves misbehave for attention
from Goddess, which is also a selfish act. Being put into the
doghouse was my punishment for my selfish act, which saddened
me because instead of getting attention, i got no attention and
felt isolated from the Woman i serve, worship, and adore. Another
method that Goddess Lorena used was punishment payments or fees.
These also worked to correct my ill ways, and at the same time
helping Goddess."
worshipper frank s.'s Advice: "As an accepted worshipper
of Holy Goddess Lorena, i feel that this month's topic for the
advice board applies to those, like myself, who desire a more
cerebral rather than physical state of submission.
It is my belief that true domination and submission is really
in place in the mind of the submissive as opposed to being forced
into him through the tip of a whip. When the questioner in the
topic relates that She has a hard time understanding why some
of Her slaves do not seem to be 'trying very hard' to obey Her
and to please Her, i can think of my own experience.
A Mistress often selects a slave in the first place because She
feels She may be able to use his basic intelligence for Her own
benefit. If She doesn't give his mind exercises to keep it occupied,
and concentrates only on the physical pain aspect of his training,
then She places Herself in danger of losing his interest. The
great strength of Holy Goddess Lorena is Her recognition that
training is not completely physical. She is a major practitioner
of the conquest of the mind of a slave. She starts this when that
slave is but a trainee. This keeps his interest in his training
at first, and later allows him to know that he is supposed to
think about his slavery and that he will be afraid to try to improve
himself, as he has been allowed to think from the inception of
his training. The very fact that we are allowed to answer provocative
questions and that our thoughts are actually solicited on the
advice board is a demonstration of this.
i wonder if the slaves of the Mistress, who asked the question,
are perhaps reaching out for a more advanced form of training.
Training methods which may incorporate mind exercises as well
as the well known physical training. The obedience and devotion,
which the slave himself craves, has a much clearer focus when
it is inserted into his mind emphatically. i believe that this
mind insertion can best be achieved if he admires the forceful
intelligence of his owner. Her intelligence will stick with him
better as She demonstrates Her intellectual domination over him.
i believe that, in the long term relationship, he will learn to
respect this domination of the mind more that he will fear the
physical pain he must endure. Her mind will keep him as a slave,
Her whip is really an enforcement tool, it won't work as well
if the whip is the primary method of training.
A great Goddess, as Goddess Lorena is, leads Her slaves as much
as She pushes them. They become better slaves that way.
Tonight i will be going to bed with the high heels of Goddess
Lorena in my hands. i do this every night of my life. i do this
because thoughts of my Deity, Goddess Lorena, are deeply embedded
in my brain. These thoughts were put there by Her words and Her
intellectual dealings with me. They weren't put into me through
the use of immense physical pain. They stay there because i admire
Her mind and Her work ethic. I trust Her to lead me into a slavery
where i learn about things concerning my slavery and my life as
a slave will expand, though always within the box which She places
me.
The Mistress who penned the question for this month's topic, i
believe, should pursue the minds of Her slaves as much as She
assaults their bodies."
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