worshipper slave alexander's Advice: "You don’t go into a shop and ask
the clerks: 'Here i am, so you tell me now why I’m here and
what I want to buy'. If you act like a customer and 'book' a session,
you will get what You want- a session you‘ve paid for to
fullfill your dreams for one or two hours. So you have to hold
back your customer mentality to make Her see what you are really
looking for. Make it clear to Her that it is more than paying
for a service. So you’ll really give Her the power to fullfill
your desires. Otherwise She‘ll only do what you and your
money wants Her to do."
worshipper slave bruce's Advice: "It is quite obvious
to me and to Superior Women such as Goddess Lorena that Women
are the Superior sex. Unfortunately, many Women are brought up
to be submissive and need to be shown what kind of power they
do possess. It should be the duty of every man to show them how
Superior they are. Concentrate on only pleasing Her and not on
yourself. Buy them gifts, do chores for them, give them a foot
massage at the end of the day, treat them like the Queens they
are. Eventually the Woman will then realize the power She possesses
and it is only then that the inferior male can really be happy,
at the feet of his Superior."
worshipper slave c.'s Advice: "The reason Women in
a session hold back is very simple, they are professionals and
the first order of business is to provide a service to their customers.
They aim to please and get return business. In most cases they
are not truly dominants, only acting the part to satisfy their
clientele's needs. Many times they are subjected to pseudo submissives
who only wish to get a quick fix for their fetish and who actually
provide a complete script down to the actual dialogue that is
to transpire between the Woman and the 'slave'. The Women cannot
be blamed for the way they conduct their business, for experience
has taught them that they are dealing with a very self-centered
and fickle group of men.
If the male is a true submissive, he will ask the Woman what he could do to serve and please Her, when She asks him what he wants done. he should keep in mind that Women have not been socialized to be aggressive and it will not be an easy task to find a Woman who will assume the power that is rightfully Hers. There are indications that Women are taking charge more and more, but overall the demand for Dominant Females is greater than the supply.
Another aspect of this issue is that
alot of the expectations by 'submissives' really do not do anything
for the Woman. The sexual gratification of a 'slave' is not something
a Dominant Female derives any pleasure or interest. Being submissive
is serving the Woman and not Her serving the slave. The power
She wields is the power to do as She pleases and the slave's reward
comes from satisfying Her needs."
worshipper slave frank s.'s Advice: "Boy, this month's
subject is near and dear to my heart. To me, this question gets
to the very root of why we all delve into this. The true exchange
of power, and connected to it, the eternal search for the handful
of Women who understand Their power, and, more importantly, how
to use it.
How often in the past have i driven for hours to a session with
a famous Mistress, whose ads i had been following for a long time,
only to be asked right up front, 'what do you like?' Then i say
to myself, here it is again, another phony, another small business
Woman. Just giving me entertainment for an hour in order to get
my money to run Her business. So She acts, so i will act in turn.
Knowing that i will never come back. Knowing that when She uses
the term 'behavior modification', She is only mouthing words.
Knowing that She sees me as a 'client', not a personal piece of
property to mold.
Or how about when you go to one of those famous establishments
with all the plush carpets and the different 'rooms.' Before you
start you fill out a questionnaire. Now they know just how far
they can go with you and they now can try and fit everything that
you like into the session. That's domination? i don't think so.
So once again you start out on the quest for someone who really
believes in Female Domination, who really wants to train you for
a purpose of Her own. Someone who has a use for you in Her life,
not just for the odd hour which you pay for. So few really understand.
you really get tired of this.
So you let your fantasies intrude into your vanilla life. you
hope you can somehow send signals to Women you see that you would
like to worship them. This means that you are really taking a
chance. she could conceivably call the police or get you fired.
And you never, never, understand why they don't realize the power
that they have. Why they don't know how their beauty just makes
you melt. How Her high heels and short skirt make you want to
drop to your knees right there on the sidewalk, at the store,
or in the lunchroom.
But you know that somewhere there really are Women who will use
a man. But here we have another problem. Here we feel that they
will strip us of all our money then walk away laughing. Leaving
us no more means to pursue our submissive goals of true servitude
to a really knowledgeable Goddess. These Women are the real 'actresses.'
Sometimes they pretend to be 'Dominant' just to get your money.
To other men they are some other way, also just to get the money.
But, happily, those of us on the internet may have found an answer.
Because of the construction of websites it is easier to find out
the Women who will really work at this. Someone who is willing
to put in Her time and effort to really train a man is a true
Goddess. Someone who wants you to learn things, to suffer, and
to learn why you are supposed to suffer is a better bet than a
Woman who puts Her hand out, first thing, and demands the money.
You just know that when the money is gone, there is no more learning,
no more 'Domination.'
Goddess Lorena, of course, is a true 'Goddess.' "Learn from
Me, slave" is what She says to you. you find out quickly
from the website that here the play acting stops. Examine those
brands on the flanks of the slaves. Those things are 'real', folks!
you earn your status as a slave from this Goddess. A tremendous
array of ideas, training materials, and reasons to go on with
your training, make this Woman extra special. you are being trained
for a use and a purpose. No changing when the mood changes, no
'topping' from the bottom. Learn from Her, worship Her, obey Her.
Find true submissive bliss here. Know now and learn later that
this is real servitude. Spiritual and physical training. You are
a mind as well as a body. This last point, i think, is the main
separation between Goddess Lorena and the rest of FemDoms. She
knows that you have a brain in your head. It needs some exercise
now and again just as your legs do.
i know how you long for that particular Woman at work, or at the
store, or in the neighborhood, to take you as Her own.. We all
have yearned for that ourselves. But we can't force it to happen.
we understand their power over us so very well. When we think
of them nightly, while we are masturbating in our beds, we know
that we belong to them right at that time. The next time that
we see them we so want to tell them, hoping that they will, this
time, have some idea of the power that they have over us. As Female
Domination becomes more wide spread there will be hope for some
of us. But it has to be on a basis of training first, making Her
wealthy second. The only way that Women will take their place
as the rightful leaders of the world is when they take financial
control. Not to tease or trick males out of money individually,
but to get to the levers of commerce and become the people who
control the levers. When that happens, men will not stand a chance.
But, alas, how long will this take? i probably will not live long
enough. So i worship Goddess Lorena, simply because i know that
She is the real thing."
worshipper slave roger k.'s Advice: "Unfortunately,
dominant Women are very few. Like it or not, a huge majority of
Women are submissive and have no interest whatsoever in dominating
a man; which leads me to believe that the majority of men are
just the opposite and have no real interest of being dominated
by a Woman except for sexual reasons. You should ask yourself
if you really want to spend the rest of your life with a dominant
Woman or not. And if so, well it’ll take patience and a little
digging on your part."
worshipper slave x.j.'s Advice: "i think it's important
that the Mistress knows what a slave likes, and that the slave
knows what the Mistress likes. If either party does not know what
the other likes, it can cause lots of problems.
If a Mistress asks "How do You like it?", it sounds like you're ordering a hamburger. Naturally, this is not a Mistress one would want to visit.
It is usually a good idea for the Mistress to find out as much about the slave as possible. Like what does he fantasize about? This questioning can be done in a very erotic manner. She can then use his fetishes to control him.
The problem is if the slave tops from the bottom. The Mistress must not let this happen! There is a bit of a balancing act. This is much like Judo. The Mistress uses a slave's fetishes again him, and there by controls him.
For all this to work, the Mistress and
slave must share common interests and fetishes. If they don't,
the Mistress is simply going throught the motions."
Supreme Goddess Lorena's Advice: I have heard
this complaint often but it is rather common for most Women to
want to please a man in order to keep him interested in Her. ProDoms
will do this also but only as a business decision to keep the
client as a repeat customer. If these sessions you refer to are
not with a ProDom but are with non-professionals then the problem
may lie within something you are doing wrong. Either the Woman
is not a naturally Dominant person and so you have picked the
wrong Woman to try a D/s relationship with or you have failed
to get the point across to Her that you are not interested in
role-playing but sincerely want to serve and please Her by doing
whatever She wants and not what you want. Perhaps She has become
too accustomed to meeting role-playing fake submissives who top
from the bottom. If so, She needs to be reassured that true slaves
do in fact exist and that She has finally found one. Imagine the
look of excitement and relief on Her face when you not only just
tell Her this, but also prove it by showing Her.
It is not that Women do not realize the power they hold or that
they do not want to use it, but that many Women find they have
power over men only if they use sex as a weapon. She may also
prefer less of a battle and getting less resistance so She will
give the man what he wants in the hopes of getting what She wants
in return. A give and take relationship. However, since Women
in general can be more considerate and giving than men, it often
turns out to be the Woman who ends of giving in the most and the
man who takes, takes, takes. This then leads to a feeling of unfulfillment
in the relationship (and resentment). men who feel unfulfilled
in a relationship will usually feel this because he lacks the
sex he wants (either wanting more sex or to have a kinky fetish
satisfied). If he cannot get this from his relationship he might
try finding it through more masturbation and fantasizing, adultery,
a one night stand, swinging (partner swapping), a prostitute,
or a ProDom. Whereas a Woman typically needs more fulfillment
of love and feeling cherished so Her need can only be achieved
in a passionate long term love affair, a romantic novel, bearing
a child, or getting a divorce. But if the Woman does recieve what
She wants in return, it becomes a mutually rewarding relationship.
This is not the makings of a D/s relationship, however.
A D/s relationship is where one person holds all the control (hopefully
the Woman) and the other (the man) gives, gives, gives. Though,
the submissive male will not stay (unless with absolute force)
if he begins to feel unfulfilled so an experienced and understanding
Dominant will reward Her slave from time to time with what She
knows he likes but only if She is pleased with his level of servitude.
She uses every and all means in order to control Her slave, including
sex but not only just limited to sex. If She is displeased with
his service and She feels he is not worth Her time and efforts
to correct him then She may banish him, forcing him to return
to the endless sea of unwanted slaves who must seek out yet another
true Dominant Woman. There is no unfulfillment for Her, since
any slave worth keeping would still be Hers and there is always
a never ending lineup of slaves begging to be owned by Her.
To find such a Woman, you need to open yourself up to being found
but She will only find you worthy if She feels you will serve
Her well. Consider the amount of slaves who must apply to Her
on a daily basis and that She has probably heard all the promises
before. She needs proof, not mere words. Therefore, for any true
Dominant Woman to believe in your serving potential and abilities,
you must be fully trained before applying to Her.
I recommend you first train yourself how to be a good slave and
how to properly serve a Woman by watching the following instructional
training video:
How to Worship a Goddess
My blessings,
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess club and Queen of Femaria
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