Video for Women: Goddess Party
(These Women below are being tutored by Supreme Goddess Lorena. Tutoring For Women.)
Dear Supreme Goddess Lorena,
I had the slave that I was telling
you about who was passed to Me by another Domme. I had him for
the weekend on a trial but I have not heard from him since. I
know he has personal problems to sort out. It was an intense emotional
experience for him, and left him feeling "emotionally drained
and confused" to use his words. I did wonder whether I was
bit hard on him but although he said he didn't like what I did
to him or what I told him to do he was extremely grateful and
gave Me nothing but praise and adoration. He told me that he didn't
like what I was telling him to do but he felt compelled to do
it because he knew it would make Me happy. However I can't help
feeling that whole experience was too intense for him so I don't
whether he will be back or whether he will ever write the journal
of his
experiences that I told him to write. I have taken your advice
about rephrasing my ads to specifically state 24/7. It has improved
things a little but a lot say that they want 24/7 when it is just
their fantasy.
Please give My regards to Goddess Alison.
Love and blessings, Goddess Christine
I have experienced this as well
with slaves who are used to sessions and have not known the "real"
experience until they met Me. It is common for them to be shocked
and confused by it. Some may fear the reality and prefer to return
to their familiar fake sessions while others may feel enticed
to try more "real" sessions again. Yes, it would be
best to attract those slaves who are prepared to try 24/7 by stating
24/7 in Your ad. Though, be prepared to still meet many who say
they are ready for 24/7 yet do not know at all what it entails
until they actually try it. Many are unable to handle it and some
are only prepared for a session which they figured they could
get for free since You are not a prodom. Thus, those slaves will
only be there for the one "free" session and so will
not commit 24/7. Therefore, it is recommended to have them commit
with a signed contract, financial commitment, and marking after
the interview but well before any "session" (training)
takes place.
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
Tutoring For
Women
Dear Supreme Goddess Lorena,
Thank You so much for Your advice which is so practical and inspiring.
I tend to doubt Myself and My own ability when I start training slaves and then they leave at the beginning of their training, even when they are really grateful for what I have done for them. I guess I get very disheartened at times and wonder whether it is all really worth it, though I know I could never be happy in a vanilla relationship and that I need to express My dominance and control over men in order to feel fulfilled, satisfied and sexually stimulated. I once read somewhere that dominance is creating a hunger in a man so that he will do absolutely anything in order to please and satisfy You, but I also have a hunger - to control and dominate men and to be served, worshipped and adored by them. When I have had my "meal", as it were, and they have gone and left and my hunger returns and they don't, I feel deflated, dejected and sad especially when I have put so much effort and work into it all. And yet as a Dominant I cannot afford to show any signs of weakening or of self doubt let alone any sign of self-pity. But I am human and first and foremost I am a Woman with intense feelings and strong desires. I guess all I can do is to keep trying and hoping to get there, maybe one day ....? Does this make any sense? Or is there something wrong with Me? I hope you don't mind Me rambling on like this with these thoughts but sometimes I feel I just have to express and share these feelings with someone - someone I hope will understand. I think it is wonderful what you are doing and I am so glad that I have someone such as Yourself who I can talk to - even if it doesn't seem to make a lot of sense sometimes. Thanks for reading and letting Me ramble.
Love and blessings and take care, My love to Goddess Alison too,
Goddess Christine
You are not alone in Your frustrations. Many men cannot handle
24/7 and many who say they want it fulltime in fact do not and
so Women such as You and I end up feeling used and having Our
time wasted. You may even feel rejected by them or like Me You
may feel as though You have a revolving door installed. The alternative
of living with a "normal" relationship is not appealing
to Us and therefore We must endeavour Our endless search for real
24/7 slaves. But as I have said before, they are out there so
never give up. Believe Me, finding just one good one will be well
worth all the trouble and searching.
You are welcome. I do not mind You sharing these thoughts with
Me as I fully understand the frustration You feel as times and
I know how helpful and reassuring it is to have Me and the other
Women of Goddess club to share this with. Watching the videos
You ordered (Goddess Party and Ladies Tea Party) again should
help build up Your confidence each time a slave leaves You as
I remember how much You enjoyed watching them and the way You
had felt afterwards.
Goddess Party
Ladies Tea Party
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
I met a man who isn't really submissive, but who completely adores
Women and respects them and lives to please Me. he is very domestic
and loving. Submissive in a way, without the fetishes. So how
can I complain?
Lady K of Goddess Club
That is wonderful news. You obviously do not need an answer
or advice but I would like to comment on this as what You had
said is very important. Sometimes it is easier training a naturally
submissive man to serve You than to train an experienced slave
or fetishist to serve You. Many of My longest lasting slaves started
out as being "vanilla" men who were just naturally submissive
and subservient. I have always found that such men are less demanding
of their fetishes since they have none or they do not yet know
they have them. So I have owned many slaves who I had trained
to become slaves. Before owning them they had no knowledge of
the D/s world. You will find that it is much more beneficial to
You than seeing experienced slaves since experienced ones are
the demanding ones. The same applies to men who You date too long.
Eventually every man feels unfulfilled and asks for more of what
he craves and he wants more control over the "relationship".
It is then time for You to find another man or You will be the
one left feeling unfulfilled. Beware of men who call themselves
a "slave" yet ask to find a Mistress/slave relationship
that is "mutually rewarding", "both parties are
satisfied and happy", "equal partnership", and
"teamwork".
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
Hello! I am totally new to this scene but I discovered a part
of me that needs to be in this place of being worshipped as a
Goddess, as one of your club member stated 'vanilla relationships
were flat/stale and leaving her emotionally drained'. I know that
feeling for sure. I believe I have always been a natural but didn't
express it for fear of alienation and isolation of the opposite.
Now, however, I am now discovering the powerful tug of this lifestyle.
My question, that I didn't see in your site, is whether there
is sex at all involved between Goddess and the slave? I am also
discovering certain needs that maybe considered 'fetishes', at
least to me since these discoveries are so new. It would be tempting
to have the right chemistry with a slave, locating one, and of
course support for myself from other Goddesses. I do not wish
to necessarily be a Dominatrix, I simply wish to be a Dom in my
relationships and would hope your site/club could be insightful
and useful as I 'walk' this new path. BTW, what do you say to
men who We are? Especially the ones interested in us? Just come
right out and say it? Or is there a technique? Look forward hearing
from you.
A.
Dear A.,
Welcome to Goddess Club.
It is wonderful to hear that You are entering the lifestyle in order to get the fulfillment You seek and which You rightfully deserve to have in Your life. In regards to Your question, each Goddess and slave 'relationship' varies and so some Goddesses may choose to have sex with their slaves, and some may not. I Myself have many slaves and so I use some of them sexually whereas some of My other slaves are not worthy of that or are of no use to Me in that way but instead serve Me in other ways. You will find Goddess club very helpful as You follow this new path in Your life. The articles will teach You alot but the videos will help You even more so as they show a great deal more than what any article can and You can also use them as training tools to train Your slaves. When You choose which videos to order, know that the follow videos I have listed below are chosen more often by Women than any of the others (though of course You may find the other videos very useful to You as well).
Book:
Videos to train Your slaves with:
If You need any further advice or suggestions do not hesitate to contact Me again or My Assistant, Goddess Alison.
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
Help! I am so fortunate to have a submissive male in my life who
introduced me to this wonderful lifestyle. However, I have tendencies
to be a pleaser as well, but have made huge strides in being less
so. I have adapted in other ways too, much to my delight. But
here in lies the problem. I have two children from a previous
marriage, and he has a child from a previous marriage. Now, it
is quite difficult in maintaining such a lifestyle with three
children in the house.... any advice, such as how to instill the
reprimands and punishments, not to mention the commands and expectations
with three small independent souls and their demanding schedules?
How can you maintain the desires and demands but have to wait
until behind closed doors to implement.... takes some of the deliciousness
away... any helpful suggestions would be greatly appreciated?
Mistress NL
Dear Mistress NL,
To answer Your question, I have thought back on all the D/s lifestylers I know who have children. Here are ways in which they live the lifestyle without fear of their children "finding out" or seeing things which they should not:
1. Keep everything of questionable nature locked away, such as adult magazines, adult videos, bondage equipment, fetish clothing, etc. But if they do come across something unsuitable for them to find then be very creative and quick thinking to come up with another use for it as an answer to their question of "What is this?". For instance, the nipple clamps can be "clips for hanging rubber boots up to dry on the clothesline". The whip can be "a fly swatter from Africa".
2. Do not tie Your husband up, call him "slave", have him crossdress, punish him in obvious ways (such as over the knee spanking and whipping) in front of the children.
3. Make use of the time when the children are in school to live Your lifestyle more out in the open (at home at least). Have both You and your husband work at home if possible. If it is not possible to work at home then arrange for sitters and sleep overs as often as possible or hire a nanny who is good at keeping the children out of the home while Your husband serves you.
4. If the oldest child "figures it out", have both You and Your slave-husband talk it over with the boy in private and have him agree it is not suitable for the younger ones to know yet and so not to expose the information to them. Have the oldest child agree to abide by this very important rule or You risk the other two younger children finding out and You do not want that.
5. Punish Your husband while the kids are in school or punish him in other ways which are much less obvious. (For more on this, see below).
If You believe in the lifestyle as being just that, a lifestyle, then it is not wrong for Your children to witness that their father serves their Mother. It only shows that he cares for You and respects You. However, it is not right for them to witness You beating him, etc. You must use Your own common sense as to what is appropriate or inappropriate for them to see.
If You worry he will misbehave when the kids are around because he feels You will not punish him while they are present then punish him severely for this once the kids are not present OR find other ways to punish him while the kids are present.
For example:
-he must wash the bathroom before going to bed (including the toilet).
-he is not allowed to go out with his friends tonight because of his earlier misbehaviours.
-he is not allowed sex tonight.
-he must go down on You (oral sex) for as long as You want then he must go to sleep without anything for himself.
-no TV privileges for 2 days.
Etc. All it takes is imagination on Your part. The main thing to remember is to keep the rules obeyed at all times or his disobedience will increase and soon it will become just a fantasy in the bedroom where he asks You to play out his sexual fantasies. Fantasy play acting in the bedroom is not real Domination of the male. he must SERVE You.
How to train Your slave husband at home:
Tutoring For Women
Advice Index
A Day in the Life of a 24/7 D/s Lifestyle Couple
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
My new slave seems to be working out quite well, thank You,
though he is not very domesticated and is quite slow (why do they
dawdle so much?) but I am confident with the right training that
he will improve and will eventually provide Me with a reasonable
standard of service and a lot of pleasure and amusement.
My previous slave that I was going to brand absconded. It was
so unexpected and quite a shock as I had no idea that he was planning
to escape. I intend to brand My new slave eventually but also
to have him castrated. I have discussed it at length with him
on many occasions and he feels that not only is castration the
right thing for him for his own personal reasons but that it will
strengthen his loyalty to Me. Have You ever had a eunuch slave
or know of Anyone who has had one? I would be interested to hear
about any experiences. I am still continuing to interview and
trial slave applicants as I am sure I am not going to be satisfied
with the one slave.
I was hoping that You could give Me some practical tips about
branding as I have never done it before. What do You use? How
hot should the branding iron be? Does it need to be red-hot? How
long should it be left on the skin? How long does the mark last
for before it needs to renewed or is it totally permanent?
Thank You for including My other question for the "Subject
of the Month" advice board. I can't wait to read the advice!
Hoping You are well and my regards to Goddess Alison,
Love from Lady Christine of Goddess Club
It is indeed very common for slaves to dawdle. Some of the Goddesses of Goddess
Club even nicknamed one of My slaves "ms.doddle" since he doddles
so much. he even admits to doing it. I feel it maybe the slave's way of making
certain that everything is done according to instruction. You may find that
they also won't do anything unless they are told to and that they like to follow
the directions to everything. It is their way of making sure that they don't
make any mistakes.
When and if to brand a slave is a very touchy situation as each
slave sees it differently. Many offer when applying to You that
they are willing to do it but won't do it once the time comes
to getting it done. These slaves just have the fantasy or they
are telling You what they think You want to hear. Many will flee
in fear as this is just another way to make the man commit to
a "relationship". It must be done at the right time
and only You can tell if it is the right time for that slave to
get it done. If it is asked too soon he will worry he will get
it done for nothing if you rid of him later and if You ask it
too late he may feel he already has his foot in the door and so
doesn't need to get branded in order for You to keep him.
No slave I know of who says he wants to be a eunuch actually ever
goes through with it. Again it is usually just a fantasy to them
that they are not willing to live up to. A strong warning, I had
read on a eunuch board that one man did it for a Woman and when
the "relationship" ended he sued Her for his "loss",
holding Her responsible for his actions. Make sure You are not
present when he goes to get it done, that it is not done by You,
and that he signs a letter drawn up by him which he gives to You
and in which he states that he is doing this by his own choice
because he wants to do it.
There can be infection to branding and it can be done too deeply
so I strongly recommend tattooing instead. If You want to own
the slave for life make sure the tattoo clearly states Your name
and that it would be hard for him to cover up with another tattoo
if he decided to leave You.
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
Tutoring For
Women
It has been My observation that the average
man who calls himself submissive is in fact even MORE selfish
than the average man walking down the street....have you found
that?
Lady K of Goddess Club
Yes I have found that. The reason is
because all men think narrowly. Eat, sleep, sex. They have very
simple minds and because of it the average man does not know how
to please a Woman. A slave has it much easier because his Owner
will always just tell him what to do. However, since all men still
basically only think about eating, sleeping, and sex, they see
the purpose of being with a Woman mainly only for having sex with
Her (or to put it more scientifically, procreation). Woman=sex.
That is a man's mind. Now a slave's mind is fetish. Fetish=kinky
sex. So if a slave has fetishes he now has something extra he
wants from a Woman. Woman=kinky sex. A slave having a fetish does
not make him submissive. The famous masochist himself (see the
movie "Sick") was FAR from being submissive to his Wife.
he treated Her, and everyone else around him, like dirt. Do not
see a man with a fetish as being submissive. See his fetishes
as something he WANTS.
Teach/train a man to serve You instead of his fetishes:
How to Worship
a Goddess
Tutoring For Women
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
Thanks for your response, Goddess Lorena. I completely agree
with you. I still have a lot to learn about the lifestyle and
how to make men do what I want. My birthday is coming up and not
a single one of My slaves has sent Me a gift or even a card or
a tribute!
How long did it take you to start building up a good stable of
slaves?
Lady K of Goddess Club
slaves always need to be TOLD to do things and they also often
assume that every other slave is already serving you and sending
you things so he feels that he himself does not need to (slaves
often feel insignificant, jealous, and unmotivated). So if all
of them think that then none of them bother to send anything.
So TELL them to send you something. However, if none do send anything
then know that it is their own fault and not yours and never let
on that you have been sent nothing. No slave wants a poor Mistress
or one who is not wanted or successful. It is the same in the
vanilla world. No one likes a loser. But ironically when you do
not need money or friends because you are a success then they
all want you but in actuality they really only want to try to
get a piece of your success.
I find that it takes on average one full year of searching to find a good slave who will last and he will last, again on average, only one full year. After one year he has had his fill of his fetishes and doing what he is told and now wants more control (ie: a normal 50/50 relationship). So I go through a good 24/7 slave every year or so and it takes Me one year to find another good one so even when you have a good one, keep looking for next year's slave (your current slave's replacement).
I hope this helps. I know My book, Femaria, City of Women, has helped you learn alot but the video you want, Goddess
Party, which you are having trouble getting slaves to buy for you,
will help you learn even more. It might be a good idea to just TELL a slave
to buy it for you.
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
Jan 15, 2001
D ear Goddess:
My nanny and I emailed you a while ago regarding the training of my husband.
We have a bit of a new problem. My question is - have you had any experience
with an emotionally charged slave that will not follow instructions when told
to? he is required to read at least one hour a day any literature that we select
but he fights and whimpers because he wants to watch a basketball game. Should
we be strict to our rules or give him some room?
Thanks for your help.
Kelly
Dear Kelly,
Yes, I have alot of experience in training insolent and rebellious slaves. The
first thing you need to do is to find out the reason for his disobedience. Is
he rebelling against all of your orders? Or is it only when he wants
to watch basketball? Or do you get the feeling that he is misbehaving on purpose
in the hopes of upsetting you so that you will punish him?
If he is rebelling against any and all orders then he may not be trainable.
The anguish he would cause you would not be worth it in the long run. I would
then suggest you replacing him with a better slave.
If he only will not obey when a basketball game is on then perhaps it is the
one thing that he needs for himself. slaves need something for themselves so
that they can have a break from serving all the time. They need to have an outlet
for a hobby, interest, exercise, career, socializing, making finances, etc.
You need to sit him down and negotiate a time which you will set aside and allow
him for his own needs. Let him know that you are granting him this. That it
is a reward and a privilege you are giving him. A reward that can be taken away
if he misbehaves. he will feel grateful when he has earned it and will try harder
to please you if it is taken away from him. It is a tool you can use in order
to train him better.
Consider the fact that he may also not like reading. Women in general always
did better in reading and english in school than men (whereas men were better
at science and math). men are more interested in visuals, pictures, and.....TV.
If it is reading that he is having trouble with then get his eyes checked and
try giving him educational reading material that includes pictures (such as
Goddess club's training videos).
But lastly, if he is being insolent in the hopes of being punished then let
him know that you will not give in to such manipulative tactics. you will punish
him when and how you feel like it and only when you feel it is
needed.
How to teach/train a man:
Tutoring For
Women
How to Worship a Goddess
Goddess Party
Femaria, City of Women
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
March 15th, 2001
Dear Goddess,
Just thought you may be interested to hear this feedback! We just
love your site and the reality of it!
It's been nearly 6 months since my live in maid/domina and I began
training my husband. After I contacted you, I mentioned to him
the possibility of us visiting you for advanced training and told
him that I figured it may be a good idea to have some input from
an experienced female dominant. He was rather apprehensive but
somewhat curious. I guess the unknown has instilled some uncertainty
in him. Regardless, he will accept my decision. The three of us
spent nearly 2 evenings reading and discussing your articles as
rather a prep for our trip in the future. He felt that it was
the most informative, realistic and accurate site he encountered.
However, he did strongly agree that women are increasingly taking
control of society and how he feels it is time for men to concede
and live a secure, safe life of female supremacy. He has accepted
his role in our household and continues to accept our guidance
and our rules although we had some difficulties before (Thanks
for the advice!). I asked him to give me 10 words in order of
importance that describe why he and other males on your website
feel submissive to women.
His answer:
Intelligence - We always outmaster him in Trivial pursuit, home
and financial matters dealing with.
Security - He now depends on our support since his contracts are
done.
Nurturing - We always give him some sense during down times.
Presence - He feels our presence when we enter the room.
Leather - He sees and feels it everyday.
Pantyhose - Sheer hosiery is a fixture in our home
Skirt - Femininity
Whip - Keeps him alert
Prostheses - Every man needs this.
Breast - Sign of nurturing
Rather interesting combination, but true.
I do however have a question. Would allowing him to wear feminine
clothing (skirt, pantyhose, ...) at home only cause an eventual
transformation in the future. We want him to stay male and live
as a male with a female supremacy mindset?
(We will contact you by email at least 2 weeks before arranging
a trip)
Thanks,
Kelly
Dear Kelly,
I am so pleased to hear that your slave husband is responding
well to his training.
In regards to Femininity and hosiery, some men say that they feel
intimately closer to Women and that they are submitting more if
they touch or wear a Feminine item which Women wear. That in itself
is okay. However, some men tend to like it so much thay they then
want to dress up like a Woman (which to most Female Supremists
is viewed as being a sacrilege to Women, for only Women are Women.
males are lower beings and so Female Supremists feel offended
and insulted if men try to imitate, mimick, or portray Women).
Some men go even further and want to stop being a man altogether
and instead want to be made a Woman or become a Woman permanently.
But Women are Superior so to some a man asking to be made a Woman
is him asking to be made a Superior Being.
The man dressing as a Woman should abide by these two main rules:
1. To dress Feminine not to be a Woman (a sacrilege) but
to submit to Womankind (as a way to rid of his maleness
and to pay homage to Women).
Due to this rule, a slave should also never name himself as being
a Woman.
2. Not to dress up as a Woman while thinking
that to be made up like a Woman is to be made submissive
(insinuating that Woman are submissives).
Due to this rule, a man should also never use submissive or insulting
terms for Women on himself when naming himself. ie: Bitch, Slut,
Whore, etc. (that would be blasmephy and insulting and disrespectful
to Women)
A man who tells You how You can train him more successfully, by
telling You that he will submit more if You try this or that,
is most often just trying to train You to give him the
fetishes he craves. Know that Women almost never crave their men
to dress up like Women. It is almost always the man who asks to
do it or who wants to be "forced" to do it. So with
knowing this, You decide on whether You think this will actually
train him better or whether You will be just catering to a fetish
he likes. (Never allow a man to manipulate You or his training.
A fetish should only be granted to him as a reward.)
I personally recommend that You remain being the only one in Your
household who wears the skirt and hose because if he starts liking
it too much and/or views it the wrong way then it will be too
hard to go back to the way things were (You especially do not
want to change anything at this point since he is doing so well
in his training now.)
I look forward to teaching You more, and to training Your slave
husband (if that is what You wish also), in person. If You feel
it would help You to understand more, I will demonstrate on My
slaves and You may question My slaves on their training while
You are here.
How to crossdress Your slave-husband: Ladies
Tea Party
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
March 20th, 2001
Dear Goddess Lorena,
Thank you for your valuable advice. My maid/domina and I
agreed with your view of how feminine garment should be worn by
females only. Excellent point! We decided to allow touching
and observing us dressing in our attire for now. When we
were married, I would never have imagined that I would be enjoying
this and training my husband. I'm amazed just how quick
he submitted himself to our roles and my comfort in mine.
This role has made me feel more feminine than ever since my lifestyle
has changed. However there have been instances that I couldn't
control my daily dom instincts and showed control in front of
friends. It was unintentional but he did not react during these
moments therefore he must have accepted his reality a little more
than I thought. The couples in question never elaborated although
one female friend jokingly asked me "What's the trick?"
and my maid/domina commented that maybe those men would have loved
to be in his postion but are afraid to do so. Maybe I turned
a new leaf but I will try to exercise some control when needed.
I sincerely thank you again for your comments and your contributions
to educating us all in female supremacy.
regards,
Kelly
Do you really think I could get my husband to treat me with respect?
I think he only wants me around to be his maid. When he is not
at work he sits around watching TV or in front of the computer.
He never spends any time with us. (We have a daughter.) I have
to pick up after him, clean for him, cook for him and he doesn't
even mow the grass or take out the trash. We have no sex life!
All I would ask for is a husband to talk to, who cares about what
I'm going through and will help around the house once in a while.
Do you think there is any hope?
C.
Dear C.,
your husband continues his bad habits because You allow him to. Stop taking
out the trash. Stop picking up after him. Walk all over his clothes if they
lay on the floor. Since your husband seems as to act as though You are no longer
visible I would recommend that You make yourself so. Start to live Your life
without him. he may surprising start to miss You. If You are always there to
do things for him then he does not see a reason for things to change. You must
make him WANT to change things. You could say that You have spoiled him. Let
him know that You no longer need him by going out without him and doing Your
own thing and soon enough he should start showing more of an interest. Keep
in mind that men are very visual and so can easily become couch potatoes. Also,
computers have created alot more cheating husbands. You may want to give him
something more appealing (of Yourself) for him to look at and take an interest
in instead of watching TV. If he still does not take an interest in You or even
Your daughter then it is obvious that he avoided spending time with You on purpose
and perhaps over some very important and serious reasons. Perhaps he doesn't
think there is anything to lose. You would then want to consult a divorce attorney.
Trust Me. You'll be better off without him. There will at least be less things
for You to have to do. Ie: taking out the garbage. You could say that he is
the last load of garbage for You to have to take out to the trash.
How to teach/train a man:
Tutoring For Women
How to Worship a Goddess
Goddess Party
Femaria, City of Women
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
Dear Goddess Lorena,
I am naturally submisisive as is my boyfriend. He has asked me to be dominant
with him and I have asked him to be dominant with Me. We love each other dearly
and want to please the other so much, but find it hard to take a dominant role
with the other. We have tried to find dominant others that may be able to help
us but this hasn't been very succesfull so i am wanting to learn how to be more
dominant with my boyfriend before it put more of a strain on our relationship.
We aren't looking to be a dominant / submissive couple 24/7, but we do want
to try this to help in our relationship. Can you help?
Many thanks
S.
Dear S.,
Yes I am able to help You. Many Women come to Me for My help so I have alot of experience in helping Women to learn how to be more Dominant. They find My training tools to be very enlightening and educational. Along with the training tools You may also email Me once You recieve them so that I may guide You if You have any questions regarding any content of the training tools or how to use them.
You can find out about the training tools
from the following links but if You have any questions regarding
them or any of My other items then feel free to ask for further
advice.
I can also tutor You with in person lessons if You wish or if
You prefer I can train Your husband/boyfriend/slave(s) for You.
How to Dominate a man:
Tutoring For
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How to Worship a Goddess
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Femaria, City of Women
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
"i was thinking how special it would be for a child to
have a mother like You. i observed the capacities of a few women
i know who have large families and You have these capacities because
You can manage a stable of several slaves, train several slaves
and have contact with probably a lot of applicants and other interested
men like me. Thank You for doing that. i know You do not have
children but i have had some discussions with several people about
the subject and am interested in Your opinion about it. How do
You think about starting a family as a dominant Woman?"
I could not possibly think of having kids at this time in
My life while having so many slaves to train. Besides, these slaves
act and misbehave enough like children anyways. However, My opinion
on people having children while living the D/s lifestyle is that
it is fine as long as the children do not witness BDSM acts. In
regards to children witnessing Female Supremacy in their home,
it should be viewed as being absolutely acceptable to raise kids
to believe in Female Supremacy and to see their father show respect
for and serve his Wife in a subservient manner. There are many
Women who are beaten by their abusive husbands in front of their
children and that should be seen as being a much bigger crime
than a child seeing his/Her father catering to their Mother. When
a child witnesses and has memories of seeing his Mother being
beaten, it leaves permanent scarred memories for the child and
it also often influences the child to become either an abuser
also or a victim of abuse. Whereas a child who grows up seeing
a husband catering his to Wife's needs leaves only memories of
love, respect, and devotion.
Another opinion I have on this subject is that I have known many
slaves who prefer that a Mistress not have children. I feel it
is most likely because he thinks children would get in the way
of him getting his fetishes whenever he wants them. This is selfish
though because even though a Woman may be Dominant it does not
mean She may not want to raise children. If a Woman wants to have
children then She should be able to have them without worrying
about losing slaves serving Her because of it.
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
Goddess Lorena,
Thank You for letting Me keep in touch with You as often as I
like. That means a lot to Me as I respect You a great deal and
value what You have to say!
I re read your article "The Difficulties of Being a slave."
This really clears up why I have had problems with some slaves
up to this point. I especially enjoyed what You said about Us
keeping Our composure and "holier than thou" attitude!
You are so right! men in general seem to respond better to Women
who act this way. I'm not sure if You have encountered this as
often as I have, but I find that at least half of the slaves who
come to Me expect Me to support THEM! Other slaves will do things
for Me, but it comes with a hidden price tag. I know there are
good slaves out there but perhaps they are just hard to find.
I have to place personal ads since the area I live in is quite
dry in terms of the D/s lifestyle. I have never had any problems
with vanilla men treating Me like a Queen in the past. It almost
seems like submissives have MORE expectations and demands than
vanilla men (?) I am still searching for good slaves. I'm finding
that they start dropping out of sight as soon as I ask them to
purchase something (even if it's small)!
Sincerely, Lady K, proud member of Goddessclub
It is true that when men have a particular interest or need they
can be quite insistant on getting what they want. The fact that
they are slaves and not normal vanilla men would lead You to believe
that they would be somewhat different. But they are not. they
can be just as demanding and selfish. Especially if they have
a particular fetish. they tend to forget that they are slaves.
slaves are to serve. End of story. You will need to remind them
of that from time to time. Some even take the news quite hard
and then decide that they no longer want to be a slave since they
can't get more of what they want from You. That is when You need
to either compromise, give him time off, or start accepting new
slave applicants again. The olde revolving door then starts up
again. In order to keep the revolving door closed and to keep
Your slave(s) longer You will need to give him time out, reward
him when he's good with what You know he likes, or compromise
as You would in a vanilla relationship. If the thought of having
to do all that for a mere slave who is supposed to exist only
to serve You just sickens You then I recommend that You keep the
revolving door open indefinitely. About them wanting to be supported,
many slaves are seeking a Mother or Goddess figure who will lock
them up and look after them. Again You need to remind them that
they exist to serve You and not the other way around. However,
it does help in keeping them longer if You look after them in
certain ways (ie: health, diet, rewards, special time together,
etc) if they in return look after You quite well.
I teach men to cater to what Women want. men are here to serve
Us and not the other way around. It does have to be a give and
take relationship but if it is with a man who feels fulfilled
by serving you by doing what You ask of him and he only feels
happy when he knows that he has pleased You then there will be
less that You will have to do to fulfill his needs/wants. Also,
never give in. Give him what he wants (his fetish, sex, etc.)
only after he gives You what You want and try to get as
much from him as You can in the beginning of the relationship
because he'll only give alot in the beginning. You can also get
more from him when he is over the barrel (so to speak). Why do
men hate manipulation, scheming, blackmail, and ultimatums from
Women? Because men know that is what makes them give in.
How to teach/train a man:
Tutoring For
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How to Worship a Goddess
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Femaria, City of Women
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
Why do Dominant Women always just ask for money all the time?
Why can't they Dominate slaves without asking for cold hard cash
to be involved?
The most common complaint I hear among FemDoms (both Pro and
non-Pro) is that the male population in general is selfish and
that male slaves are just as selfish. These FemDoms complain
that the slaves 1. just want their fetish to be catered to instead
of caring about giving the Woman what She wants and 2. he wants
it for nothing (for free). he complains about having to pay for
it as much as She complains that he will not pay for it. But is
it not obvious to everyone by now that men want sex and Women
want financial security? Is not this the reason why prostitution
has always been so popular? Of course if the man was a true
slave who truly cared about serving a Woman then he would just
do whatever the Mistress asked of him and he would also
give Her whatever She wanted, whether it be money or anything
else. (For the Mistress this would then mean that She would no
longer have to seek out so many slaves to get what She wanted
and needed from each and every one of them but instead could get
it all from one good fulltime slave.) And if the true slave
is married then he would not seek out another Woman to serve but
would just serve his Wife and remain loyal to Her. But if he is
not a true slave then he does not want to serve but really just
wants to get his fantasy fulfilled and when his Wife won't do
it for him or if She does not fit into his fantasy then he seeks
another Woman to "serve". And he wants to find this
other Woman for nothing (for free). he resents his fantasy having
to involve money. Even if he asks for training, he resents having
to pay for his "lessons". Why? Because to him he isn't
wanting to pay for lessons. he isn't asking to learn anything.
To him training means a "session", not a "lesson".
FemDoms do not cater to their client's fetishes by giving them
a session because they want to. They do it because it is
the only way to get funds out of the slave. men in general do
not want to learn from a Woman. Even when they were young boys
they resented being scolded by their Mother. they saw their father
being the boss of the household and so wanted to follow in his
footsteps.
I detest finding out that many FemDoms Dom Women also and have
Female slaves. Especially when those FemDoms state that they are
Female Supremists. I find it to be so contradictory to their beliefs
but I thought maybe they offer such a service as a way to cater
to their clients requests more. To give them both ends of the
spectrum if that is what the client was willing to pay for. But
now I wonder if that is the reason why the FemDoms have Female
slaves. Could it be that these FemDoms have found that Female
slaves are not as selfish and demanding about getting their fetish
catered to so these FemDoms prefer to keep a Female fulltime slave
instead of a male one? I personally would never resort to doing
that. I hate Women being Dominated and so will never Dominate
one. But maybe, just maybe, that is the reason why those particular
FemDoms have Female slaves and/or Dom Women.
Things have not changed much since I used to ProDom. I stopped
doing it because I could not handle the men asking "What
do i get?", "What does a session entail?", "Make
me do.....", and "Force me to......"., etc etc.
But like I said, things (and men) have not changed much. men who
call themselves "slaves" still complain that they cannot
find the "right" Mistress. Perhaps they should first
try being the "right" kind of slave.
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
My boyfriend likes to strip me naked and watch me walk around
and do the housework completly nude. i feel i have become his
slave. Can you offer any advice on what i can do to humiliate
him? i can't strip him because he is too strong.
At a public function announce loudly to everyone there that
your boyfriend is such a low worm to even think about humiliating
his own girlfriend in that way when in fact Women should be treated
with more respect.
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
I am in the early stages of a Goddess/slave relationship right
now and I could really benefit from Your wisdom so that I go about
this the right way. I met My slave through a personal ad 2 months
ago and he lives 280 miles away. He's supposed to move to be with
Me and the distance is tough cause we only see each other every
2-3 weeks. Should I set a deadline or be stricter? I also need
to know what to require of him while we're apart. He does send
Me daily e-mails (per My request) but he's not anywhere near as
attentive when he's back home compared to when he's here with
Me. He needs to find a job here, but I don't know how long that
will take. It's very frustrating going by his schedule and not
Mine. This is why I am very interested in getting a copy of Your
article "How to Teach a man to Worship You" because
sometimes I think he takes Me for granted. Thank You again for
Your time Goddess.
Goddess K.
From what You have said so far, it appears as though he may not feel that there is any great need to re-locate. At least not in the very near future. he apparently gets to hear from You every day and he also gets to visit You every 2 to 3 weeks. There is an old saying: "You cannot get him to buy the cow if he has already tasted the milk." You need to give him motivation to move. Yes, set a time limit to when he should re-locate by. Also, withhold on meeting with him again and do not email him so much until he has made his plan to move. Or, at least the next time he comes have him tattooed or branded with Your name. If he does not want to bear Your mark then it would only be too obvious that he is wasting Your time. Also, seek another slave who is more conveniently located. Let Your long distance slave know that You are seeking another slave who lives closer. This too should give him more motivation. This will let him know that You are by no means desperate for him and that You are more than willing to look elsewhere if he is not serious about making this every 2 to 3 week "session" into a lifestyle. Now that You know that You want him to re-locate, I would recommend that You do not ask much more of him until he has re-located. This again gives him motivation to move. Otherwise, if he feels that he is serving You enough from where he is then he may not see the need to move closer. If he in fact breaks free of his chain once You follow these new rules/guidelines then it would only prove that he had no intention of going the next step and that he had only wanted his "sessions".
This is really not much different than a vanilla realtionship in which the Female wants to man to stop using Her for casual sex and to fully commit to Her instead.
Regrettably, the days of branding slaves and having them dragged home and beaten for running away has been over for several years now. These pathetic worms now have rights and so tattooing, slave contracts, prenuptials, and marriage contracts are now required in order to keep him under Your wing, in Your home, and/or under Your feet.
If You still have not resolved this within
once month's time then do let Me know and I would be more than
happy to send You My article "How to Teach a man to Worship
You."
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
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i am a student who is interested in entering
the world of being a professional dominatrix. i want to be worshipped
and compensated for it. i am putting myself through school and
working towards my phD. i am not naive and understand many of
the possible consequences of this lifestyle. i adore bd/sm and
have experience with several slaves. i am writing for any information you have that
could be pertinant for me. i am quite serious and am tired of
functioning in the so called "normal" job market. i
want to do something i love. thank you.
Add these educational items to Your library:
How to Worship a Goddess
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Femaria, City of Women
My blessings,
Supreme Goddess Lorena of Goddess Club
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